You can try them in any order you wish, there is no recommended order.
Soaps, shampoos, deoderants, etc should not affect your pheros.
And, to tell if you are getting hits, this thread should help
How do I know if I am getting hits !!
As for how they affect men and women, there is tons of information from members on this forum about their experiences with the different products. If you use the “search” function located on the right upper side of the forum, you can find information on specific things.