Greeting everybody especially my phero buddies in Pherotalk, i would like to inform all of you guys that i’m back as i got my new laptop & i’m back to the forum as per normal
Do you guys missed me? Well i missed all of you guys badly Well it was darn torturing not be able to be in the forum at that time without my laptop as my laptop was spolit & i’m stuck with my cellphone So many things(Good & Bad) have happened to me there when i was not in the forum & i see the forum have a lot of new changes since i was gone. Good job Pherotalk
Anyway i got something to talk to Bella so Bella if you seen this thread, please reply it & i will tell you.
Ok i know i got a lot of overdue reports to type out but don’t worry i will try my very best to get one by one done as soon as possible
And finally Merry Christmas & a Happy New Year(Well it is just a few more days ) to everyone & my phero buddies here
Thanks buddy, appreciate your welcome there Ok so you have read my Day 29 report, thanks
Well i got one more report coming up soon but i still need to remember what is the details of it as you know i was not in the forum for some time as my laptop was spolit at that time.
Hi Phat, sorry it took me so long to respond. I’m here now.
I think a lot of young guys can relate to what you’re feeling. I’m sorry you’re so down, Phat. I understand about being discouraged about your love life. It’s difficult being a single young man looking to meet the right girl.
Phat, you’re too hard on yourself. Ease up, sweets. You need to relax more about all this man/woman stuff. Honestly.
Ya know, I’m glad I didn’t give up, 'cause it took me *forever to find Wolfie. Seriously. Ya know when I found him? When neither of us was looking. That’s right. Frankly, I’ve found some of my best friends when I wasn’t looking. And ya know what else, Phat? You know it’s coming>>>> *It would never have happened if I hadn’t left the door open.
Take a break from pheromones, if you feel the need. We all need a break, from time to time, for whatever reason. And take a break from actively trying to meet girls. I understand that, too. Nobody knows better than me that we can be a bitch. Literally. But then ya gotta do what a man’s gotta do. You know what that is, right? If you forget just take a look at the John Wayne quote in my sig. Then do it. Saddle up again. Whadaya gonna do become a monk?
Remember how renny took that Spanish class? I really enjoyed reading about that. He had a lot of fun meeting people and testing pheromones. When I was thinking about you, it crossed my mind that something like that would be fun for you too. It could be a class or anything you think might be fun. Maybe… a dance class? I know you like to boogie but do ya know how to Cha-Cha? If you should meet any girls, that’s great. If not, so what? Making new Friends is always good, be it girl or guy. Besides, you know all about social proofing. You never know when you might make friends with someone who could introduce you to a nice girl.
You get my point, what I mean is to turn your attention to other activities that are fun but not solely concentrated on meeting women.
And something else I want to say to you and I hope you know that I say it out love and my interest in your well being. I know you like to drink. A lot of us do. I just think you should know that consuming alcohol can be a depressant for some people.The reason that I mention it at all is because it occurred to me that maybe when you’re feeling particularly blue you should take it easy on the “joy juice”. Sometimes when people feel down, instead of alcohol making them feel happy, it can make them feel even worse. Just something to keep in mind when you feel like drowning your sorrows.
Anyways, I don’t know if you’re happy with my answer, Phat. But you know when you ask me, I’ma give it to ya straight, 'cause you know I love {{{you}}}.
You’re absolutely right there: If I’m not really happy I don’t drink any alcohol (or max a beer or two), because I know that the alc will make things soooo much worse and really drag me down! Unfortunately this took me years to learn…
My thanks Bella , i knew i can count on you on giving excellent advice there & i’m happy with your answer & i know that you will tell me straight to the point because you care for me there
Well here is my point of view on your advice there> Well firstly so i have been hard on myself like you said well you are the not the first one to said that to me, my other close friends that i told them about this said the same thing. Yeah i gotta agree that i have been hard on myself but that is my character or attitude & i can’t relax on it at all. So this is one reason on my opinion that it is better i keep the door closed.
Hmm, interesting info about yourself there Bella but still i have enough to even think that i can meet someone without looking. No offence there but that is my nature of thinking. I’m still keeping the door closed shut & it is the end of the road for me there already. I cannot suffer anymore heartaches as anymore heartaches will make me do something foolish if you know what i mean.
And no i can’t take a break from pheromones as i kinda heavily addicted to it so no go. And i have given up on meeting up girls so what is the point on taking a break on that? No point really Bella. And yes i know that John Wayne quote on your signature but i’m not that most likely i might be like a monk or a monk whatever
I know about renny class reports well i will try that but not now. Well for dance class, that is a big no for me as i have been to a dance class & i suffered in the end. And Bella i don’t dance cha cha, sorry:o Should i be in a class soon i still fully cut off on meeting girls & just make friends with the guys(i’m not gay so don’t even think about it), that’s all. And i also doubt that any friend be it a close friend or not will ever introduced a nice girl to me, here in Singapore it is like one for one self.
I get your point but for me i will be more focus on other activities that will be fun for me but i will completely cut off on meeting girls.
And ok yes i agreed with you on my drinking there won’t make matters easier but much more worser but it is a hard habit to kick as i have been drinking since i was 18 Bella. So i think it will take me decades to kick the habit. I have been drinking to down my sorrows on some occasions when i’m alone which i’m always alone when i go out. And i tend to go heavy drinking like drinking 2 jugs of housepour liquor mix all by myself which is unusual for a guy to do there. I will keep that in mind but it will be hard for me to kick the habit.
Once again thanks for your advice & i apologised if any of my words there are offensive to you there. This is my own opinion speaking out to you.
Well bubblebob if it took you years to learn about consuming alcohol to down your sorrows, then i guess for myself it will take me decades to kick the habit.
PS, a shift in your reality can change how you see the world. Inversely, a change in how you see the world can cause a shift in your reality. My only remaining advice is to stop thinking about what’s wrong, talking about what’s wrong, worrying about what’s wrong, or why it’s wrong.
I know what you mean there buddy, thanks for your advice I will do something for myself there & try my best to stop any negativity in me there.
But for now it is the end of the road for me to getting to know girls or engaging in any sexual situations. I have given up on all that & the door is closed shut.That’s it.
It is understandable for me if all my phero buddies & friends(you know who you are) have heard what i have said there & some of you decided not to be friends with me or think differently toward me. I have to say out my opinion there as i can’t hold it inside me anymore.
PS, you’ve come to this forum several times and announced you’ll quit meeting girls, but you’ve overcome this every single time. And that’s the best you can do. You know, only if you decide to got out and do something about your situation, there’s at least a chance that things will change. If you ‘shut the door’, stay at home and frown because the world is so cruel, nothing will ever change! So, even if I may sound harsh: STAND UP, STOP WHINING AND BE A MAN!!!
Could it be that you take this women thing waaayyy too seriously? Try to see meeting women as fun (you know, it’s not without reason this is called ‘game’, right?), not as something your life depends on. This will make you seem much more at ease (which is highly attractive) and you’ll don’t break down when you are rejected.
And, seriously, if you are drinking like 2 jugs of liquor (I would crawl out of the club ) you really should change your drinking behaviour!! I mean - what girl wants to be with a totally drunken man, right?? Since I’m drinking only a little I see all these drunken guys in a club and find them ridiculous. I guess that’s how women see them, too (at least when they aren’t complety drunk as well! ).
Yeah bubblebob, i know what you mean there & ok just to let you know that i’m 100% confirmed that i’m giving up on meeting girls & the door is closed shut as i can’t overcome it anymore already. Well for other situations i will do my very best to do something about it & overcome it but this situation, hell no.
Btw you are not harsh to me there as i know you are saying all this for my own good but this is the way that i decided to take & that’s it.
Yup, i must say that i’m taking this women thingy very seriously & as that is my nature of thinking. Thanks for your advice of meeting women but i’m giving up on it already, sorry.
Yeah i think i should crawl out of the club too as too much drinking will make me look ridiculous as i’m drunk like you said there. I can do that but it won’t be easy as i have been drinking like that for some time. Thanks again for your advice bubblebob
Well it was darn torturing not be able to be in the forum at that time without my laptop as my laptop was spolit & i’m stuck with my cellphone 
So many things(Good & Bad) have happened to me there when i was not in the forum & i see the forum have a lot of new changes since i was gone. Good job Pherotalk 
) to everyone & my phero buddies here 
That’s right. Frankly, I’ve found some of my best friends when I wasn’t looking. And ya know what else, Phat? You know it’s coming>>>> *It would never have happened if I hadn’t left the door open. 