I think I’ve gotten a good handle on how Instant Openness works, so now I’m moving on to Instant Honesty.
I combined it with IH with IO on Friday before I went to a singles group meeting. I sprayed 1x strength IO on wrists and chest. And then I sprayed 1x strenght IH on the back of my neck. The IO helped me be very chatty and contribute to the discussion. I also noticed that one girl was very chummy with me, and friend I have drifted from a bit seemed to warm to me. I credit IH with those.
I used some IH alone on Saturday. One spray on the wrists rubbed together. I wanted to see how it would work at a women’s prayer breakfast. I didn’t notice any self-effects, and I didn’t feel as chatty, but the women seemed comfortable around me. Also the friend I was drifting from was more responsive to me and we spent a little more time talking than usual.![]()
Today I sprayed IH once on wrists rubbed together and one spray on the back of my neck before I went to church. I noticed the same self-effects as IO, and I felt very cheerful and light-hearted. I wasn’t even upset to see my ex and his new girlfriend.![]()
I went to lunch with a mixed group of people and got some good conversations with a guy I was riding with. He was telling me all about his work history, being laid off, finding another job, how long he’d lived in the area, how long he’d been going to the church, and etc.
Once we all got to the picnic area, I think people felt very comfortable around me, even a couple of girls I thought didn’t like me very much. In fact, one of the girls, after we had taken a bathroom break, just blurted out to me that she wanted me to pray for her concerning some relationship drama. It was kind of out of the blue, and I was surprised because I didn’t even think she liked me enough to confide in me about anything. I credit IH with this, because I was very surprised.
I will say that IH definitely lives up to its purpose. I’m surprised at the depths of conversation I had in one day, and with people I’m not in regular contact with. I will test it out for a few more days before I move on to IS/A, which I really want to try out on this guy I’m digging.
We’re going dancing next week, and I want to be on my A game with him.![]()