Welcome to Pherotalk Exhunter!
You have come to the right place and we are here to assist you get that hunter out again. 
In terms of products to get give off that suave, smooth vibe especially because of your age I suggest you give Instant gentleman a try.
Here is why : A314 vs Instant Gentleman: a married man in his mid-40s compares the two
I also suggest instant honesty that will make her feel she can trust you and would thus open up more so you can get her talking about her feelings.
Instant shine which is a feel good pheromone. It uplifts you and others around you. Definitely give that one a try.
When you know after the good use of pheromones and some technique advice from the men that you can get her alone and you have gained her trust and confidence back I would then pull out the TUTH and see if you can take things to the next level.
Remember pheromones are not magic and you will need to put in the patience and work required to reap the results.
Good luck.
Your GC is on it’s way!