I’ve been reading up on that stuff today as it happens - I noticed you recommended it in another thread.
Thanks for the advice. I may well add it to my next order.
Unfortunately the bubble burst today. I was mone free all day and a couple of words (a suggestion - nothing more - that only the two of us should feed the stray cats because the kids put out too much food which attracts unwanted pests and just gets wasted) and she kicked off.
I had to put up with 20 mins of verbal, then a slap, followed by another 10 mins of verbal. 
Because she sees a suggestion as the trait of a control freak her OCD boils to the surface and every mistake I’ve ever made (and everyone elses for that matter) comes to the here and now. I might as well have made all the mistakes over the last 7 years right then!
The upshot is I have a date with the floor. I don’t think I’ll be wasting any TUTH on her tonight LOL
My anger is cooling now but it’s hard to keep my mouth shut when she starts. My ear is still sore and that ain’t from the verbal.
She told me all my hard work is ruined (at least she noticed I was trying - she doesn’t usually) I won’t repeat here everything else she said as it wasn’t cery nice 
Anyway, sorry to bring down the the fun tone of the thread.