Haven’t posted in a long time but thought I’d chime in here.
Having been married for over a year now and having not used pheromones for longer that that even, I can speak from experience on this topic.
Pheromones play a much more prominent role in the ‘attraction’ stages of a relationship, where there’s far less open communication of feelings of attraction. Its in these stages that we communicate attraction far less directly, and are more attuned to non-verbal cues…body language and the such. At these stages we rely on interpreting social cues that are far less obvious…we begin to look beyond our social filters and become far more instinctual, and as a result, we’re more susceptible to the effects of pheromones. All our notions that people are more socially advanced than pheromones go out the window at these stages.
As you move into the more serious stages of a relationship, the sense of attraction between you and your significant other becomes more ‘human’ and less ‘instinctual’. Feelings of attraction are founded more on the experience shared with that individual. It isn’t that the instinctual attractions go away…rather it seems we couple these feelings of attractions to our experiences with the person, and they evolve to something more profound than instinctual attractions. At any rate, it seems that because we seem to attribute these feelings of attraction more to the experience and less to instinct that pheromones become far less effective overtime.
This is also the reason why pheromones don’t work on friends, and are most effective on people you’ve met the first time. Perceptions of who you are to a person are more strongly tied to what the experiences they can cognitively attribute to you…if those experiences aren’t there, then people will rely on unconscious cues…pheromones and body language.
At anyrate, I’m thinking out loud and going in circles here…but I miss this forum!
I’ll be buying more products soon and getting back in the phero game…but not for ‘attraction’ purposes, but for professional purposes (I’m still working in sales).