My name is Jeff, I’m 23 and from St. Charles, MO. I stumbled upon pheromones about 5 years ago, although this is my first time at this site. I had only tried one product, Pherlure ($50 for a 1.0 oz/30 ml bottle) which contained Di-Dehydroepiandrosterone as it’s sole pheromone ingredient. It was sold as a cologne and the smell alone was worth the price. I can’t conclude that it did much for attraction because I was about 17 or 18 and in the “prime” of my attraction days.
But now I’m interested again, and I didn’t know there were different types of them. My girlfriend of 3 years is “taking a break” from me right know (it’s been a month and a half) and I can kind of sense a breakup coming in the near future. I have a feeling she finds me too clingy and I’m smothering her, even though SHE is the one at my house every night, SHE always calls to see what I’m doing or when she can come over, and SHE always had a chip on her shoulder when I went to the bars with my brothers and friends (she wasn’t 21 yet)
To make things worse, I have Social Anxiety Disorder. The only reason I met this girl in the first place was that a friend of mine wanted us to go “hook-up” with these two random girls he was chatting with on my brother’s facebook. We were drinking at the time (which is really the only thing that helps my severe social anxiety). So we met them, brought them back to my house, made-out, but that was all. Surprisingly, considering we were drunk, they wanted to hang out again. So I hung out with her more and more, really wanting just sex at the time and not a relationship, but she did. I fell in love with her over time and now 3 years later she’s hanging out with nobody but her low-life pothead co-workers from Hardee’s, most of which are 5 or more years older than her. I even caught her hugging one of them outside her work one day, who looked more her age. She’s even been staying the night somewhere that isn’t her apartment.
Now here I am, confidence shattered. With my social anxiety disorder, I’m finding it hard to believe I’ll ever find someone else, I was so lucky to get her in the first place. I’m trying everything I can to gain some confidence and just be more noticed and attractable.
I recently order “Instant Openness” which arrived yesterday. I’ve only tried it once and it was at work with hardly any females working, and none of them attractive. I was also so excited to use it I might have overdid it on the sprays (3 on neck, one on each wrist, one on chest, and one on each arm). Could this be a problem? Would the effectiveness change?
I was curious on what would be a good combination for me. I got the Instant Openness because I NEVER approach women. I want something that will be able to let me open up more. Any suggestions?