After trying a wide assortment of products, I think I’ve settled on a effective combination for my purposes.
I meet women via Craigslist here in the SF Bay Area and elsewhere when I travel. I post a funny ad to try and attract the 40-something woman with a degree of intelligence and, hopefully, with a high libido.
I’ll usually first meet them after a short email exchange at some local high end bar or restaurant after work. That way we can get to know each other in a public place for either of us can walk away with little hassle.
What really seems to work well is Instant Honesty to the hair and NPA on the chest and neck. The first input for the female is then the IH and if we open up to each other, we can get closer and she would be exposed to the man-scent of NPA.
I prefer higher concentration IH too since I want it to diffuse.
So far, four sprays of IH X2 to the hair (all sides) then several dabs of NPA to the chest. The NPA is mostly under the clothes so diffuses slowly. I’m also older than most of the guys here so I can (and do) use more with little OD concern.
Instant Honesty is powerful stuff in its ways. It encourages your date to want to be forthcoming. That accelerates the intimacy. She’s there to find someone to be intimate with. Her motivations are in part libido-driven and in part loneliness. Almost all unattached women in their 40’s are thinking marriage. Many have divorced their loser husbands in hopes of landing someone better.
But libido is a definite motivation. About 40, their glands turn up the heat and tell them “last chance!” With that, I can help.