A Cup Worth Filling - EmptyPools' Journey

Field Reports & Anecdotal Experience Men's Journals
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Hey guys. I’ve introduced myself already, but I’m just gonna lay my thoughts and questions on pheros out here, so that everything’s crystal.

What I’m looking for from my Pher’s
-Rekindling some of that deep soul-mate connection (Possible with pheros?)

-Reigniting some of our sex life (She used to be insane, now she’s still great, but there’s… less. Less butt play, less public naughtiness, less/hardly any head…)

-Higher standing in friend-circle (I’m in her circle of friends now. They’re great, and they all love me, but a few of em are older, and definitely have the alpha status. I don’t want to tread on toes, Im just tired of talking in the circle and not being heard/acknowledged sometimes.

-Higher self esteem

My Recent Purchase:

A314
Instant honesty
Instant openness
instant shine
TUTH
Free gift - Instant Jerk

Some Details

Honestly, my relationship with my girlfriend is incredible. I appreciate it more than anything else in my world, by far.
We’ve had a long distance relationship for the past two years, I’m from South Africa, she’s from Chicago. We’ve solely lived at each other’s houses, first for 3 months each, and now for 1 year on either side.
We’ve worked together for my parents, dealt with some nasty issues early on, and we’re a generally young, yet strong couple.
Yet here I am in chicago on a holiday visa: no work, small amount of savings left, and no transport. all leading to me getting a serious dent in my self esteem.

I’d like to up that self esteem, and also the perceived self esteem.

I feel like making scarce money online, staying at home all week, and not having my own connections all contribute, and while I can easily deal with it on good days, sometimes it gets me down, and its starting to affect my relationship with my girl.

So yeah. That’s all I can really rattle off right now. I’ve recieved all my stuff, and I’m keen to jump in, but also want to be quite subtle, since I’m not sure how my girlfriend will take the pheros - I think she might take it as me trying to toy with her feelings/desires.

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Experience 001

For my first test of my new Pher’s, I wanted to keep things simple. My girl was at work while I worked from home, and I knew she was having a bad day and would just want to cuddle when we got home.
Often though, we’ll mean to cuddle, but after a short while we just start doing our own business.

Well…
I had a shower right before she got home, and hit myself up with:

1s Instant Shine (behind left ear)
1s Instant Openness (directly on top of the IS)

the results were… spectacular.

She was already happy to see me before I showered and dosed, but afterwards… man.
We had a smoke on the porch, and she simply stared at me with her big eyes, and couldn’t stop burying her face in my neck… left side, right by the IS/IO, hands all over me.

Which was followed up by brief cuddling on the bed before we found ourselves entangled in some seriously intimate loving.

…And I thought that was the highlight.
After going out for another smoke, she starts feeling me up through my pyjama pants, and damn near gave me a HJ right there on the side porch, followed by an incredible BJ/TJ session.

Incredible.

Now just cuddling on the couch, playing video games. :slight_smile:

Androtics Direct: Delivers.

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Reflections

I think I received my pheros a week ago, and I feel like after the first day I just made things worse.

Part of me thinks that I’m slipping, part of me thinks she’s just bored with me.

A year ago, we were at my house. She was in a new country, making money, hanging out and we were having fun.
Things were rather awesome, although there were times where she would say that she was bored, that I seemed bored with her, etc etc.
Once she was in my email and found an old old email from a girl I liked, but this was from early on in our relationship, before we’d even met - it spun us out for a while, but we sorted that out

I think I was just comfortable and simply living my life as I was used to, however now she was in my life, I had to keep both of us happy. - Not a problem. I’m happy to keep her happy. I’m happy when she is/looks/feels happy.

Now I’m in her country, and I feel like I’m acting just as she did. I sit at home, making money online. she goes to work (briefly, nearby. she walks, so it’s not like she’s out or anything)

But here I am, wondering if she’s bored with me, if I’ve done something to make her bored.

Another similarity I noticed, is how much more she wanted sex when she was over in my country.
Now that I’m here, I feel like I’m constantly nagging her to fuck, and she says it’s making her “feel less inclined”… I feel like this correlates to her “lower libido” from my intro post.

Basically, this post isn’t about pheros.
I’m just a bit confused, a bit stressed, and a bit paranoid - part of which is stemming from a moment a few days ago where I walked up behind her while she was in her email inbox, and when she acknowledged me behind her, she changed to another tab and didn’t go back the entire time I was beside her.

  • it’s one incident. but it’s got me pretty freaked out right now.
    ugh.

thanks dear diary. lol.

Phero report:

Over the last few days since the excellent night mentioned before, I’ve been using Instant Openness (at home) instant honesty (going out to friends birthday) and TUTH while at home.
I feel like she gets a little aroused with TUTH but doesnt act on it outright.

This morning I showered and hit myself with 2sprays TUTH. one to my chest, one to my crotch. she called me out on the smell, but i played it off. nothing further happened. we made breakfast and watched tv with her brother.

what the fuck.

SDLK:FDSFLKJSDFL:KDJSF.

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After the two sprays of TUTH yesterday morning, I’ve put nothing on.

This morning I woke up, jerked off, and got ready for the day.

Girlfriend woke up - showered, and I tried getting frisky with her, no pheromones.

After playing a bit, and realising she wasn’t too interested, I dropped it, which instantly opened the floodgates of emotion/tension.
She told me how she doesn’t know why her libido has dropped so drastically, but she just doesn’t “feel it” at the moment.

She loves me, and it’s nothing to do with my skills - I can’t enjoy sex selfishly without making her cum at least once, and she still always does, and she still enjoys it when we actually get into it, but… man.

Lately she started a new job, then lost it because it was a shithole, and now got another one at Victoria’s Secret.
Since we’ve been back in the USA she’s regained about 20 pounds, which is definitely hitting her quite hard I think, since last year she managed to lose about 20 pounds in total dieting.

Help?

At this point I’ve realised that what I’m trying to achieve is not about me getting some tail from her again, or regaining a connection (we spoke about this yesterday) but rather to help her feel sexy, and feel horny.

We’re going out for lunch at a forest preserve… what can I put on to make a playful, slightly sexy vibe? Will TUTH just make me seem sexual, or will it affect her ‘mechanisms’ :stuck_out_tongue: as well?

I really just want us to get back on the level we both apparently want to be.

Thanks guys