Hey everyone? How’s it going?
You may or may not remember me. I made a few posts when I first registered a couple months ago, but I never actually placed an order of any sort. Part of that was me never getting that $15 gift certificate that first attracted my attention (honestly, I never really pursued it at the same time, either, so I can’t really point the finger at anyone). I did leave a fairly detailed message about my situation, but that’s lost to the internet masses, and I think I’ve done a fair share of growing in the last half year or so anyway.
Once again, I’m interested in these pheromones, but I’m not sure why. I’m somewhat involved with someone now, but being that it’s nothing serious and just a summer fling that will almost certainly be cut off in a few weeks when I leave home once again to go to my senior year of college (a non-descript area in the middle of the eastern shore of the US, and also a place that I plan on finding a job near after graduation), I consider myself single and know that I will be.
A little bit of a profile: 21 years old, pretty intellectual and love to talk about things, whether small stuff or helping with personal problems or even grander philosophical debates, but I’m also somewhat shy. I can carry a conversation very easily, but I’m just not the best at saying that first “Hi, I’m so-and-so” thing. I’m not the most fit guy ever, far from it actually since I have a slight belly mostly due to me being cutoff from a lot of activities like surfing and tennis after I injured my shoulder, but I know I’m a relatively attractive guy (not to be cocky or anything), mostly complimented for anything involving my face, whether eyes, hair, smile, lips - whatever.
I know how to handle myself with a girl and in a relationship, but I lack the initiative to go up to a random girl. A mixture of shyness and me still being slightly jaded from prior relationships and flings, some which are still weaving in and out of my life.
What the hell am I doing?: Well, I haven’t been in a really serious relationship since my last year of high school, which lasted a good three years before it exploded in my face. Now I’m going back to school and returning to the dorm scenario (and even the bar scene for the first time) after having been under the age of 21, with the same group of friends, in an apartment for the last two years, and I’m doing it with the hopes of meeting some new people and seeing where things go.
So, what do I want?: I want to be able to make a strong first impression with the myriad of beautiful girls that live on my campus. I want something that helps illuminate the qualities that I have amongst all of the muscly, finely-tuned, stereotypically jock guys around me (good physical fitness is something that, sadly, due to my arm issues, I just can’t seem to get back to yet, but I’ve been definitely changing my lifestyle and have had physical changes that are getting attention). I also want something that brings out that cute, sexy, flirty, playful side of girls and makes them brave enough to start the introduction, or at least give me gestures that encourage me enough. Seeing as I’ll be living right next to these girls in three weeks, I need to consider what can help give me that boost to get back into the game I used to play all the time.
Granted, while I’m looking for hopefully something that will grow into something meaningful, I don’t want to only attract the serious people who are living for the future and not the present. I do like having fun and going out and being the young adult that I am, but I want someone to attract someone into doing all of that with me again. Most of my flings the last year have been with girls back at home, not up at college, and thus they were never allowed to fully grow into something new and meaningful.
A lot of the girls I’ve been involved with recently, it seems to easily fall into that phase where I became that great friend that they don’t want to lose should something go wrong. They say they like me a lot, but our friendship just complicates it, and then the situation gets awkward for both of us. To me, this is somewhat a plus. Being a great friend is a mark of a great girlfriend in my eyes, so I would assume that means I could potentially be an amazing boyfriend even years since the last time I’ve been in a fully-fledged and heavy relationship. I just need to get those sentiments flying after I come off as that guy they’re attracted to in order to not have the confusion and complications arise.
Don’t get me wrong, here, I’m not thinking this is some miracle fix, but I’m not really a guy with no hope here. I’ve had several “deep” relationships and have dated many, many extremely beautiful girls. I just need some help getting things to jump off the ground early on so I don’t find myself either in the stereotypical “gay friend” situation anymore. I’m a more chill, laid back individual, and that personality just doesn’t stand out as easily at my school as it does back home. Granted, I need to get into new groups of people, too, which is another side effect I’m looking for.
The end result: I’m curious as to what will help my situation? What will attract girls and encourage them to make the first move? What will make me appear to them as someone to get to know or as a possible interest? What will make that strong first impression? And, if possible, that $15 gift certificate would be extremely helpful in me starting this endeavor.
I just need that initial boost. I’ll be able to handle the rest myself (though advice on what to use during that period of “dating/talking” would be helpful to, especially if the pheromones work out with reinforcing my own first impressions because I’d definitely be interested in trying out more).
Thanks!
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