Well, I owe everyone an apology as i have had access here for quite a while but seldom come and have never posted.
A little about myself: A am a married (20+ years) low-key Alpha - that is until I get really torqued off - and then I am not so low-key. (I have however managed somehow to stay married. She is very forgiving.) I try real hard not to step in and take things over but … even when I am not in charge people have a way of turning to me for direction and answers. And that was before A314. I work in - actually about to retire from - a pretty much all Alpha male environment. I exercise routinely and do martial arts for part of my exercise regimin as well as for work.
I try to be friendly but do spook some women. I don’t mean to, but I do. I however prefer female personality types that are not intimidated. Interesting note: I recently started working with one such female in a social setting. We get along fine though she does defer to me. She is very upbeat, very friendly and very helpful with suggestions, etc.. At the same time I think the A314 vibe also keeps us from becoming good friends. We are merely friendly if you understand the difference.
I am however pretty popular with kids of various ages. I work with kids a lot in a volunteer mode as I have time. Sometimes been paid for it. I get lots of high-fives, smiles, “Hello mr. Bosshank”, etc.. My kids’ friends come over and it is “Hey Mr. bosshank, how about a game of foosball?” My response is usually “C’mon let’s go.” And I kick their butts, but we have fun. I hope - and think - they know that I would do whatever necessary to protect them if there was a problem.
I almost daily wear A314. About 1-2 drops. Wrists, behind the ears, and sometimes under the nose. I also use MX 172 - alcohol based A314. I will blast an occassional spray or two of this on top of the regular A314 when I want no mistaking who is who. I often augment this with other products - MX 237: neroli scented Ammo w/ TAA is the most common, or SOE, WAGG-N, or Instant Gentlemen to soften it, or IH to generate some conversations.
I recently posted a thread in the Men’s Forum about the reactions of an Alpha friend of mine when I go a little high on the 'none with the MX237. He is a good friend but he is somewhat jealous of my status/position and you can tell it rankles him sometimes from the comments. He is a good guy though.
Given all this, I will say that the A314 has definitely created positive influence in my life. People do a lot of unbidden things for me. They are doing the right things for pretty much the right reasons, but they are often doing things they do not have to do or would be expected to do. And sometimes it amazes the above mentioned friend how easily things seem to fall into place for me. I know at times it seems things just fall into my lap for no apparent reason and certainly not because I did anything. That to me is the power of A314 when combined with positive leadership. People around me jump on the bandwagon so to speak - often with great enthusiasm - and do what needs to be done. Usually without a great deal of direction.
The downside of course is that I believe that A314 generates a certain amount of distance between me and many of those around me as in the female colleague I mentioned above. Or another type of distance generated by success. “My” people - both work related and socially - are enthusiastic, hard working, and friendly. Often friends. But not good friends. There is almost always that certain distance with most.
Well, I hope this makes sense and at least partially makes up for my lack of participation up to this point.
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. It’s just boisterous and friendly around these types of guys.