Heya toil, my take on this probably isn’t in the main stream. Here’s a bit of long-winded background to set the stage: I’m six foot three and built sturdy – I haven’t seen “thin” in the mirror since I was in my early 20’s and running six miles a day. Unless I make an effort to modulate, my voice slips from strong to authoritative to commanding; my normal speaking voice – not loud, just pitched to project – easily carries a city block or tops a noisy crowd. My posture and bearing aren’t exactly military (e.g. ramrod stiff / pinch your turd off at 45 degrees) but I am ex-submarine Navy and I can feel my spine stretching tall and I still walk a bit like an urban warrior, age notwithstanding.
I have the habit of looking just about everyone I meet or pass on the street in the eye, even those who are evidently mentally or emotionally unstable. I do not mind going to the places that others typically consider ‘scary’ – mentally / emotionally, as well as physically. Policemen who are usually officially aloof in their public presence ‘nod’ hello to me (first) surprisingly often and occasionally spontaneously call me ‘sir’. (No kidding.)
Please note, I’m not claiming any of this as something due to me as a result of anything I’ve done … it just happens. Maybe it’s because my dad was a Marine Corps master sergeant and I unconsciously absorbed his attitude, I don’t know.
What I do know is that unless I make an effort to avoid it, it’s easy for people to feel intimidated when they are with me. ‘Softening’ my social presence is almost second nature to me now, although I also have no desire to go to the “gentle giant” or “cuddly teddy bear” corners either.
So, given that background, I wear one drop of A314 … two in exceptional circumstances. I want the DHV and enhanced professional respect of A314 but I also wish to avoid becoming a “monster”.
For work, I soften the A314 with Spaceland – one spray. But notice that one spray is Spaceland is 50 mu of alphanol, more than in three sprays of Instant Openness; enough to take the distancing effect of A314 out of play. By the time that the Spaceland dissipates, the A314 has settled and mellowed.
A couple of hours later, I’m leaving work, and the A314 is riding in the back seat, an undertone – and Instant Shine comes out to play off of the quiet A314 vibe, creating a celebratory ‘let’s laugh and dance’ atmosphere that I support mentally and physically.
I think the mix that you used might be overkill in some circumstances, but in a smoky bar or dance club, it could be just the thing – you balanced it well. All I can say is that I’m fairly sure it would be over the top for me. In the few months I’ve been hanging out here, it’s become abundantly clear that every individual’s mileage may vary …
Hell, MY mileage varies, depending on how much sleep I’ve had and my emotional disposition. :o
PS: Note on my exception – wearing two drops of A314: for large meetings (100+ people in conference center) and for smaller group (a dozen people) meetings with more senior colleagues when I’m making a first impression.