Advice needed for a nervous newbie.

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Hello everyone. My name is Krista and I’m not totally new to pheromones, but I am new to Pherotalk, so I hope this will be a good source of information. I am twenty years old and I live in the state of Pennsylvania.
My goals here are to learn more about pheromones and hopefully be able to use them to better my dating experiences. I have a special someone I am trying to gain the attention of, and I plan on using pheromones to help, but advice would go a long way.

I’m not trying to attract random guys in a public place, but rather a specific guy that I used to date a few years back when in high school. We recently got into contact again and he has been showing some interest. I feel like he’s out of my league and that makes me nervous. He’s a great guy with a good heart and should have been a model with that beautiful face.
So here is some information on him and myself.
He is a nice guy, but is more…alpha (I guess is what I’m looking for) than the guys I usually date, not that I’m complaining. He is very active and always has to be doing something. He knows how to have fun, but can easily be serious when the time calls for it. He’s motivated and positive.
As for physical details…I can’t give specifics since I’m a bad judge, but he’s twenty-two, of average height with an athletic build. Well-muscled, but lean.

For myself. I am a nice person sometimes, but I am easily agitated and I need a strong person who can keep me in check. I have social anxiety, and it’s hard for me to meet new people. That includes reacquainting myself with this guy. I am very well aware of this though, and can usually handle myself pretty well in any given situation. It is usually hidden by an alpha/slightly aggressive nature that is more like my real self than the nervous shell I put myself into. I guess you could say I change depending on what the situation calls for, and that is how I’ve always been.
I’m not active all the time, as I have little to do, but most of the time I am out working with my horses. (An interest that we share, though he’s never had horses, but wants to.)

Physically: I am 5’2", 128lbs(build has stayed the same over the years), feminine well-placed curves, but not a whole lot of muscle tone, and I am twenty.

I’m not entirely sure if this information helps at all, but I felt I would give it a shot. I don’t know what pheromone product I should use or how I should go about it. At this stage, I know there is some interest, but I’m not sure how strong it is or if it will be followed. It isn’t obvious to me, and I want every little bit of help that I can get my hands on. So advice would be great.

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Welcome to pherotalk

You wrote more than enough, lol. When you use mones, you will attract all kinds of guys- the ones you like and the ones you don’t. That is just how it is :stuck_out_tongue:
If you want to attract alpha guys, Instant Sexiness B usually does a good job. Also, I recommend you try Instant Sexiness A to see if that works out better. Plus, it is always good to have more in your arsenal.
Use IH to get him feeling connected, intimate and close with you. Also, try Instant shine to put others in good mood and enhance your youthful charm and charisma.
Also, read and post in teh women’s section to get better ideas. Tisha, Mickaelia and Sillykitty and many others should help ya

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Thank you for the suggestions. I think I will post in the women’s forum. :slight_smile:

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you should get the $25 giftcard, so use that to help reduce some of your initial spending cost :wink:

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Welcome to the forum smokerider!!!

That’s great that you know about mones! What have you tried before?

Thanks for the detailed explainer. So, to win over a specific target, this 22 year old hunk.

IS/a is geared toward a more alpha projection, think Angelina Jolie with IS/b more of a demure attitude, think of the kitten Marilyn Monroe. I haven’t tried these out personally mind you!!! I’m not sure what I’d get using IS/a or IS/b in my case!!! Maybe a Christian Slater?!? :smiley:

Having an easing of communication may be what you’ll need so IH would be very useful! I’ve used this and it does seem to lift mental restrictions in yourself and others to be, well, more Honest with the person your with.

The guys and gals on the forum will help with what we can to get you to where you want to be!!!

Cheers!

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You two already had a relationship i nt he past which is great. For communication and depth and that connection, I would go with Instant Honesty, that should help bring out the closeness that you had once, and apparently are sharing now as well.

For attraction wise, what are the types of girls he goes for. You said that your alpha

Instant Sexiness A could really help with that. You might seem like t he shy girl next door to someone who just doesn’t know you all that well. But I’m willing to bet he liked you when you were out of your nervous shell and that’s why I would try and go with IS/a.

Having fun and enjoying each others’ company is also great with relationship building, it is also why I believe Instant Shine would be another great addition to your products.

Good luck keep us posted

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I have actually used IS/A and IO before. A friend of mine ordered them once and suggested I try them out. It was a while ago, and sometimes I could tell the difference with myself, but not so much on people around me. Sadly, the self-effect wasn’t meant for use around people at that time. I work with horses, and sometimes I’m having an off day and need a confidence booster. IS/A would usually do the trick, and it came in handy when I needed a more demanding attitude while working with my stallion.

Now, however, I want to get my own pheromones and test them out on this guy, not my horse. :stuck_out_tongue:
Anyway, I can’t be real certain what kind of girls he goes for, as I haven’t seen him in years. I know the girl he dated last, but I’m having a hard time pinpointing her type, though he hates her now so I’m not sure I want to.
I think he would respond to the alpha vibe better in certain situations, but I think I’m leaning more toward the demure vibe for right now. I don’t want to be too aggressive, but I still want to have enough confidence and that extra something to get me noticed.
Like I said before, I’m not sure how deep his interest is, and he is so hard to read. I just really need to get his attention. So maybe IS/B or IH to start out with and see how that works, then move on to IS/A in small amounts?

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That looks like a good way to go. I’ve also read on the womens forum that depending on what vibe you want to projects, some women will wear one or the other. Also, for self effects, you can look to Instant Shine to give you a happy and content in a bottle. When your on an off day, IS can also bring you back to IN. It perks me up and gets me going when I got to get up at 3:30 in the morning! When I re-apply, I feel at peace with the world.

As to the mones effects on others, you mentioned IS/A and it looks like you hit your specialized sweet spot for a stallion! :slight_smile:
Take a look below on my sig what Steve posted on finding your sweet spot. He gives some guidelines to get to know what amount of mones will give you a good response. More isn’t necessarily better.
I’m sure that Mickaelia will be along shortly to also give you her thoughts!!! She is unflappable!!

Krista, your on your way to radiating even more your superior inner self! :slight_smile:

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I’m going to wait for a couple more replies, just so I can get a general consensus. Though I am really interested in trying out IH, so I am probably going to go with that no matter what.

Thanks guys for the information you have provided me so far. It is really appreciated and I really can’t wait to try these out.

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See if Sillykitty and tisha and mickaelia can help out

Wait for them or PM them directly

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Welcome to Pherotalk Smokerider!

Confidence is key and when I say confidence you don’t have to full of yourself or vain but head strong and know who you are and what you want. Alpha or not men love that and when you have that it’s harder to let the opp sex walk all over you.

Seeing that he hates his ex means that he probably had a bad relationship with her. Men are even worse than women in a sense that when one woman hurt them we all become bad and they will wage full out war to prove us evil.

CTTM 2 is a 50% honesty and 50% openness so it will assist in getting you to talk and conversation to flow. In addition, I find that cttm 2 creates a really warm, intimate atmosphere.

Instant sexiness/b will attract more alpha males and will make you feel soft and sweet. I think it goes better with your personality.

Don’t be someone you are not but try to enhance and develop the good traits.

Your gc was issued. :cool:

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Thank you very much Mickaelia. I know he had a bad experience with his ex, and I also know what it was. He told me about it when we were together last. He wasn’t really frustrated or anything by it, but just said that he was glad to get away from her and the bad situations she brought. So I don’t think he’s currently on a mission to dub women as evil.

I actually have some IO right now. The friend that let me use her IS/A doesn’t really use them anymore and decided to give me the rest of her IO, and there’s quite a bit still in there. That’s the main reason I’m interested in IH and IS/B. For right now I am going to stay away from IS/A, as it just doesn’t seem like it would help me at this moment. I will probably get CTTM2 in the near future, but I think since I have some IO already that I could combine it with IH.

Thank you for the information. It is very much appreciated. :slight_smile: