Hello ladies, well i got my lady or was it she got me? well anyway we are both in love and i now have the dilemma of telling here about my phero use!
I hate the though of lying to her but then again if don’t mention it am i lying?
I feel that i am going to tell her but just wondering what your thoughts are on this and if there is good way to tell her? thought i might get her one of the ladies products ease the shock a bit.
She had often commented on how nice i smell so thought maybe nest time i just mention that it is not just cologne but once of my love potions and go from there.
Well, if you’re in love and you want this relationship to go somewhere, ie you see it being a longterm thing, then you might as well tell her.
Honesty is really important in a relationship, and it’s not like you could hide them from her forever even if you tried
When you tell her, just emphasise the fact that phero’s can boost many areas of your life, they aren’t just for getting laid…Oh, and obviously also point out that phero’s only enhance what’s already there, they can’t create feelings or control minds, so it’s not like you “tricked her” to fall for you
Xiphoid thanks for the advice, always did intend to tell her just wanted to hear it from another female perspective, and yes long term relationship is the goal.
A lot of men have said that they would not be offended at all by the knowledge that a woman had used pheromones to attract his attention. Unfortunately, that’s not always the case with women. We are unfailingly angry when we feel as if we’ve been ‘tricked’ into sex.
I would recommend honesty, of course. Your relationship is not worth anything if you can’t be honest with each other.
But I would also recommend not revealing your whole hand at once. Introduce her to Instant Shine and explain that it just makes everyone feel good, or introduce her to Instant Honesty and explain that it helps couples build that deep communication that relationships are built on, and that you really wanted to know her better and thought this would help you open up and communicate with her in a more intimate way. Women love that.
After she has gotten ahold of the fact that pheromones have many uses, and they are not automatically ‘sex-getters’, then explain to her about whatever else you’re using. I’d just recommend breaking down the social barriers first, by displaying pheros as social instruments for the betterment of everyone.
Pheromones.Women. Its basically an amped up cologne that can’t make someone do anything they don’t already have an inkling of doing.
You like her you wanted to do whatever you could to make her more comfortable and facilitate conversation.Victoria’s secret had some pheromone enhanced lotions on their site for awhile and dial supposedly has some phero enhanced bodywash.Its a highbrow form of a cosmetic.
She’s so pretty you were nervous.You’re tuning your body to say what your mind and heart wanted to but could not.
Bubblecatcher,
I know the consensus on this particular thread is to tell your lady about the pheromones, but you might want to step back for a second and examine it.
When I was married to my husband (who passed away) we had a great relationship – he was the love of my life. But he did not know every single detail about me even though we had known each other for over 20 years. I think it is entirely appropriate to keep a little mystery in the relationship. I did many things for him to keep our relationship spicy and did not feel the need to give him a detailed explanation of how I got the ideas or what fragrance I was using, etc. Nor did he ask most of the time – he just enjoyed it. And we had many many happy years together --faithfully.
Which brings up a bigger question about pheromones: Are they something that one absolutely must reveal to his or her spouse or lover? Or is one of many tools of seduction, which if revealed, could possibly spoil the mystery?
I do believe in honesty in a relationship. If you have (for example) a felony conviction in your past or were previously married or have a child you have no contact with, or a drug problem, etc… then she must be told these things. But I am not sure that revealing all of the seduction tools that you now focus on her is an absolute must. (Of course if she asks the direct question, an honest answer is best).
Just my opinion. Good luck with whatever you decide.
Thanks for all replies, a range of useful opinions that gave me an insight as to what should do.
I have decided not out rightly tell her about my use of mones but if she sees the bottles i will tell her about them. I will emphasise the social side of them and that they are not supposed to have a linx/axe advert effect, instead they only enhance what is already there.
I think this is mostly if the guy is using something unorthodox to get laid and it does not end in love so the woman already regrets sleeping with the man.
If you have a happy and harmonious relationship and she is happy to have met you, se is not going to care what tricks you used. It is all about your intentions.
Hmm I agree with Rosegirl. I have been married 20 years myself and I always think its good to maintain some mystery in a relationship. I do believe in honesty between partners but hell I dont tell my husband my seduction secrets and I dont want to know his. That takes all the excitement and fun out of it. I am sure he figured most of them out by now though. Share to much and the relationship becomes stale.
Serious things yes be honest. If she sees them and asks what they are be honest but dont offer it up to her unless you think she may want to use them to really steam things up.
I agree with Tisha and Rosegirl. Id leave the mystery there.
I told my ex and it was just an added issue in our relationship. He didnt fully understand pheromones and ended up getting jealous of them. He hated that Id wear them out (even when with him), because he felt like it was all about sex and picking up guys.
We had some fun with them but ultimately it gave him a complex and a place to put the blame. ALSO it advanced to other problems that I cant even mention here for reasons. SO I would hesitate and keep the mystery there.
You dont want her to tll you EVERYTHING she does to look and smell good to you right?
Thought i would return this thread as there has been a development.
First off thanks for all the views both for and against, one thing to know though is that due to our past being open and honest is important, lying is a big NO NO. We are able to talk about anything, nether of us are controlling or possessive.
So far i have not told her but during one of honest talks she said she was going to get me some deodorant as i had AN odor about me!!!
Now BO has never been as issue for me, i always shower or bath before i see her and use cologne (green irish tweed), she has complimented me on this in past so can only assume that the ‘odor’ is related to my use on none products.
I said nothing at the time, but after i began thinking maybe i should say something and introduce them explaining that none can have funky smell to some people, even got her some Instant Sexiness A/B for her to try.
Am pretty sure that not telling is not the best way, just a feeling i have.
I have be toying with the idea of telling her that the ‘odor’ maybe due to cologne enhancer which i have stopped using and see if she wants to know more?
As a newbie to pheros I’ve yet to see dramatic hits myself. But I was curious in your situation, do you always wear pheromones when you are with her? Any detectable differences in your relationship without pheromones? If I were her, I’d like to know what you are like without pheromones and with them on. And if I pretty much felt the same deep emotional connection to you without them, then I wouldn’t feel weird if you had them on. It’ll just be like an added accessory and nothing to feel threatened by.
