Myself: Mid-40s, athletic, married
I want to start this story by saying two things.
First, these products do work. They make take a little work at first to figure it out. Some may work better for you than others. But they do work. You may not see the effects or be able to take advantage of them, but they do work.
Second, they do not always work or create the situation you intended. And you need to be able to deal with them when they happen. The most common you might think of is some guy getting aggressive when you wear too much 'none but there are other things that happen. But the ladies will also tell you they often draw undesired attention from undesirable folks.
This is one of those times where a great mix had a very unintended result …
Mrs. BH and I go to a big social event. Dinner and dancing kinda thing. We end up sitting with good friends of mine. The wife we really like. In fact she and I get along so well my wife has occassionally teased me but it is nothing my wife has ever been concerned about.
I am wearing SteveO’s ICM 1.a mix trying to set the tome for later that evening with the Mrs. She is sitting on one side of me and our female friend on the other with her husband sitting on the other side of her.
During dinner and the “event” portion there is plenty of small talk going on. Lots of hellos to people, etc.. Our friend’s husband is okay and he talks to people but large semi-formal/formal gatherings like this are not his forte. He also tends to drink a bit and has gotten out of control in the past. Female friend talks a lot to me - more than usual - but she is not hanging on me. No discomfort from my Mrs.
After dinner there is dancing and we all get up to dance. Except of course for our female friend’s husband who does not dance but does drink some more. Female friend dances with the Mrs. and myself and others. sometimes just the three of us, sometimes in a group. She and I dance two fast dances together when my Mrs. runs to the Mrs. Room. But no slow dances.
At the same time though this female friend never leaves me. Nothing inappropriate in any way, but she is never far. Nothing so strong that my wife feels any discomfort but at the same time she is never far. Part if it was the fact that her husband does not dance and will just sit there and drink, but then again, she was always close by.
Everything is fine until it is time to go. Then it happens.
Something happens. I will not go into what, but it is nothing serious although it is a little embarrassing. Whether he is just confused or the alcohol is involved but it is entirely his fault.
And he starts yelling at her. Ostensibly about what has just happened but you can tell the real problem is that she “ignored” him all evening. Does not matter that he is the one who will not dance or that he just sits there and drinks. But she “ignored” him. And I feel bad because I know part of the reason she ignored him was the ICM mix. It was not intended for her but I am sure she stayed closer than usual because of it.
And he keeps yelling at her. She just stops at one point and he keeps going yelling until he realizes that she has stopped and goes back for her, yells at her to keep walking, and goes on some more.
I am looking at my wife and looking at her. If she gives me any signal or he gets physical I will step in, but neither happens. I am getting really angry but I also feel terrible that I have helped set this off. They get to their car and leave. She drives. I can hear him yelling in the car as they leave. I cannot over-state how tense the situation became.
I see her the next day and apologize saying I am sorry if I caused that situation in any way. She says it was entirely her husband and goes on to something else. I still feel bad.
Remember: These products do work but they work on everyone and not just your intended “target” and that can result in unexpected results you need to be ready for.
