D88bee, I’ll intro with last thing first.
The men quite handily outnumber we lasses by a hand (at least) some of the products you buy from the men’s section will work just as well for you at attracting a male as for them attracting a female. Others (and I can’t give you exact ones as I simply don’t know) may attract other females more, but also attract males.
I use IS and it gets the attention of both male & female. I merely chock up the female attention to…thank goodness they are being nice when they could easily not.
Recently a friend advised MX135 and P83 combo, which was also acceptable for work.
Either way I would advise testing these things a bit at a time, and possibly using the work environment to test as well, it may be a “long game” as you don’t work directly with each other, but I’m pretty sure he’ll come around if he’s remotely interested.
Kitten has some really good combos https://pheromonetalk.com/t/kittens-curious-combos/6017 you may be able to cater some things to direct…but I’ll echo the phero masters in saying starting with the commercial line is good at first…walking before crawling like