Hi ladies,
I have bought to-go’s of Instant Sexiness (both varieties) for my Girlfriend to see if her sceptical nature regarding mones can be swayed.
She is 49 and menopausal ( last 4 years) so I guess ( being male that is the best I can do 
) that she may need a different amount of either to reap the benefits.
Is there anyone out there who is in the same situation and willing to share some hints, please?
Your help would be much appreciated, thanks.
I’m a little confused. If you want to show her that pheromones work, and break through her skepticism, it seems that something like Instant Honesty or Instant Openness would be a better choice, as she’d see immediately the change in others around her.
If you are trying to do something else with her, which your menopausal comment seems to indicate, please be clear what you want to see happen with her.
Diane
hi there 
im only 23.. you say that you have both varieties.. do you know what would fit her more? that could be the reason that you may not be seeing the results you want.
when i first started, i started with ISB and had a horrible, absolutely horrible time with it. i was crying, emotional and just plain annoying. when i finally accepted the fact that i’m an alpha girl and sprayed myself with IS-A, i see consistent results..
also, i know it’s suggested to use 3 sprays, but ive used up to 5 sprays without seeing any adverse effects. as matter of fact, my money-sprays seem to be about 3 or 4.. (leaning towards 4)
o and one more thing. try spraying the phero around her neck pulse and chest area as well if you havent done so already. for me, the effects are even better if i get a whiff of IS-A. i feel sexy and dominant which helps me act even more so.
anyways, hope this helped a bit
What does instant sexiness do to a girl self effects that is and what is the difference between a and b
Instant Sexiness/A is TAL heavy; Instant Sexiness B is TAH heavy.
For me TAL makes me feel bitchy and entitled; TAH makes me feel pouty. My husband responds well to TAL, giving me more respect and interest. With TAH he is disrespectful and rude to me. But, that having been said, I haven’t given the Instant Sexiness lines a full testing run because of a severe allergy to the neroli scent.
From the descriptions and the reports, though, it seems that this is a product designed to affect others, rather than for self effect. It is a head-turning combination mix.
Diane
^^^ To build on this, remember that we women aren’t cars. If you are looking to rekindle the sex drive, a route that seems like it will directly benefit you (“here are some pheromones that will inspire you to have sex with me”), may strike her as a little self-centered. That is likely to be a turn-off rather than a turn-on, and could push her further away from you.
As a lady, may I suggest that you (1) work on the communication, understanding, and personal support in your relationship and (2) get pheromones that will help you do that? We women hate feeling like the men in our lives just want to have sex with us but don’t care about what’s going on in our minds. Likewise, a man who listens, is supportive, shows he cares, cuddles us, cooks for us, goes out of his way to keep us comfortable, etc. makes us feel loved. Then when we feel loved, we’re much more interested in sex.
So, in sum, I suggest to you that dianne is right: you may have better luck with Openness and Honesty. If she feels like you’re working at this for her sake and not your sake, you’re much more likely to get results that make both of you happy. Remember that pheromones won’t “brainwash” or “control” her-- they’ll only encourage her toward behavior that already appeals to her for other reasons. So if you think you can just aim a spray bottle at her and she’ll suddenly get frisky… man, you’re going to be in for some real disappointment.
The sexy pheromones can be great (heck, I respond like crazy to Turn Up the Heat), but my boyfriend is taking care of my emotional, social, and comfort needs first. He treats me so well that the pheromones just encourage me to go even further in my natural responses to him.
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Thanks everyone, for the comments so far, I guessed Diane999 may be the first to respond, I have read many of your posts and have been amazed by how you use 'mones.
I worded the request badly, let me try and clarify things
GF knows that I have been experimenting with different 'mones over the past month or so, she has responded to some without any doubt but doesn’t believe that a spray or two of something can enhance things.
If you read my introduction in the welcome section you may understand why we are experimenting, my GF is anorgasmic, we believe it is psychological as she was ‘normal’ before a disastrous and abusive marriage that ended a couple of years ago.
No, I am not trying to switch her on for my benefit, we have a very close and loving relationship already as well as an active sex life, my hope is that the self effects of the pheremones may help her. Despite our best efforts so far ( we work together in trying to break the barrier ) we have only got to the ‘almost, but not there’ stage…
I have read differing reports of the Instant Sexiness range and have hopes that the ‘confidence’ felt by other users might be demonstrated to her too, that is all.
Sorry it is a long, and probrably still not worded perfectly, response, but I hope that it helps shed more light on the question asked.
Again, thanks to everyone so far.
Thanks Smelly, my reply before this post may enlighten things…
But to respond, I do cook, clean, take out the garbage, Iron, hang out washing, do washing up, cuddle, talk, curl up on the sofa and watch movies together and basically enjoy a wonderful, shared relationship.
I understand your comments as my question did sound very selfish, the points raised are excellent
HI FG
Di responds different to some of the molecules then most women. She is unique with different needs due to her allergies and desires. Just as I have different needs or any other member here. There is nothing wrong with this we are all individuals and as you know from using mones yourself need to find what works for you. The suggestions given to you in your intro are a start in that direction. Finding what will work for you and your GF. We start with the basic proven products. Isexiness is the top of the line when it comes to making women feel a certain way and helping them project those feelings.
IS/A is Tal heavy although it has TAH in it as well.
This one gives a strong sexy confident capable vibe. When women wear it they feel those vibes I mentioned above.
IS/B is TAH heavy This one is softer, more girly, sexy, more confidence in your sexuality,
Again when wearing it you generally feel these vibes.
Its true we buy mones to effect others and not everyone gets the self effects. Why this is I do not know.
But mones work in two ways. Of course the signals they send to others causing a response but also the self effects. Whether we are aware of it or not some mixes and molecules effect the way we carry ourselves and behave this combined with the signaling can be the difference between those big hits you read about and the more subtle hits. Its why we talk about congruency so much.
If your GF is consciously against mones its harder for the subconscious to break through and respond naturally to the mones. I suggest just asking her to keep using it for you. Whether she believes in them or not.
I am not menopausal but I am in my forties. My range with Instant sexiness is 3 to 5 sprays.
Tisha
Thanks Tisha,
your reply was a good pointer for me, I think, knowing my GF that IS/b is going to be more suited to her personality and general behaviour but honestly don’t know that to be so, we are all different.
Being blunt, I believe that raising her perception of self-value (or however you wish to word it) may be positive in shaking off the effects of the past, I hope so…
Whatever happens in experimenting with pheromones, they will only serve to add an accent to an already caring and understanding relationship, I suppose that like many others we hope that there is a ‘magic bullet’ that can help to take away or lessen particular problems.
To be fair, many people respond differently to pheromones. Each person needs to find what products work for them and at what dosages. Have your girlfriend start with 2 sprays to her chest for self effects, then work up to 3, 4, 5. If confidence is her problem, this may help somewhat. If it doesn’t help, another pheromone or mix may help.
Depending on her situation, I may have a few suggestions. but remember, pheromones are helpers. They aren’t magic bullets.
I’m 48, am perimenopausal, and have suffered from anorgasmia in the past, so, I’ll try to help if I can.
A couple of clarifying questions:
Did she stop cycling 4 years ago, or is she still cycling (menopausal vs. peri-menopausal)? How is her health? Has she had her hormone levels checked by a specialist? Is she on any kind of hormone replacement therapy?
You mention she stopped orgasming at the time her last marriage broke up several years ago. Was she orgasmic in the marriage? Did she stop being able to orgasm before the end of the marriage, and not since? How long was she married?
You mention you felt it was psychological. What makes you feel this way? Does she have trust issues, or issues about being vulnerable, or issues about receiving without feeling guilty?
And what about your relationship at its core? You obviously care. You’ve mentioned cuddling, etc. Is your relationship sound? Do either of you have commitment issues? Is there some other reason she may be withholding from you? Do you see other areas of your relationship where she holds back from jumping in with both feet?
Sorry about all the personal questions, but each of these I think is important and can contribute to holding down the level of arousal.
Diane
unfortunately without talking to her, all we can do is theorize based on your perception of the situation.
my only 2 cents here is that it may benefit her to talk to someone that isnt involved (i.e. not you) and maybe missing peices that are of value will turn up.
being that pheromone usage is your interest and not necessarily hers, im curious to see if any of this is helpful and if anyone’s advice is fruitful…
usually we have to want help and then be proactive about it.
im going to follow this post for this reason.
wonder if she would be comfortable talking on a forum with others that have been there/done that ?
Wow, Diane, you gave me a list to go through so let’s get to it:
She is post-menopausal, stopped cycling 4 years ago or so, should have been more precise…
She was orgasmic only a little into her previous marriage so for the past 20 years almost has been anorgasmic.
Her general health is very good, she had a cervical cancer treatment 3 years ago with no return of the threat since.
She was married for 20 years, it broke down 2 years ago and we have been together just about a year, although we have known eachother for a little over 3 years.
“Does she have trust issues, or issues about being vulnerable, or issues about receiving without feeling guilty?” Trust was an issue with the breakdown of her marriage and with the rebound relationship she founded just after, she chose my companionship before we became a couple because she felt that she could trust me, when she discovered that I was available she purposefully ended her current relationship in order that we may make our own. She still has problems with being vulnerable which we are working on together, likewise she has felt for a long time that giving pleasure was expected, receiving it not… We are working hard on getting that problem sorted out too.
As for soundness of our relationship, we have already talked about commitment and she has agreed to marry me, we shall make that official on her birthday in a couple of months time
We discussed her problems ( and mine ) way back in history, when we were ‘just’ friends, so we both knew what we were letting ourselves in for…
I hope these answers are sufficient to make some sense of…
I know it sounds a bit soppy, but we both feel that we had been waiting a lot of years to find eachother, to both of us it seems that we have been together much longer, quite an amazing relationship!
We do have an active, fun, sex life exploring ways to make it as much fun for her as it is for me… I won’t say any more than that
Awesome! Congratulations on your engagement!
She is lucky that she has you and that you care.
So, she is menopausal - no periods. She could possibly benefit with some hormone therapy. She would need to consult with a specialist for that. I mention this even though she’s had problems letting go for a long time because as we age that can contribute more to an already present problem.
I’m assuming your sex life other than this is good? I’m going to PM you with some stuff that I think is too private for an open forum.
Pheromones - since she is more comfortable giving than receiving, a relaxing pheromone would possibly help. Most of the consumer products are designed to sex stuff up or spark interest. TUTH is one that can add that bit of aggressiveness to sexual encounters and that can be quite primal. I’m not sure that is what would help at this point. Instant Honesty would be good to help some of the issues come out that maybe she is afraid to express. Instant Openness can be good too, but I’ve found that when I use it my husband blabs on about nothing important and so we prefer instant honesty.
High dosages of Beta Androstenol have been reported by some users to cause almost mystical and angelic experiences. I haven’t seen that so much, but in sexual encounters with my husband it does lend a mysterious and very deep quality that does wonders with exploring and expanding the edges of intimacy.
Instant Female Magic might also be one you might want to try when it is back in stock. Androstadienone is the main ingredient and you could try that instead. Just be aware that Androstadienone has been reported to cause backlash in both men and women in formal peer review testing. Instant Female Magic is buffered to prevent backlash.
TAF is another pheromone you might try. It can be quite invigorating in some people though, so you should start low and raise the dose to what works best. This pheromone has the unique ability to reset all our social switches so that encounters become just like the first time. It also lowers the filters to incoming stimulus, so that you experience tons of details that normally get filtered out. This can and does work wonders during sexual encounters, especially when paired with a deepening pheromone like beta androstenol.
All these are nice and can send you on some interesting adventures! But it is important for you to have the patience of a saint, respect where she is as maybe where she needs to be, and respect the journey. If you can do that you will both benefit.
Good Luck!
Diane
Thanks to everyone who made a comment in this thread, it is appreciated.
Special thanks to Diane999 for comments and a PM that answered a lot of what I wanted to know.
I’ll revitalise this thread later just to keep you all updated on progress.
GF had what seemed a positive benefit from Instant Sexiness so we are working more on improving things with its help
Still some way to go…