Oh my this is an important part you left out in your first post. For most women that age gap is just to big when it comes to sexual attraction. Yes once in a while you see older men with young women but thats not about sexual attraction thats about money. You dont really think those women are really sexually attraction to Heffner do you ? Its his money and power they are attracted to. Love has little to do with it.
You cant make someone feel something they dont even with pheromones. I have no doubt she loves you but anything beyond that is probably not within her to give.
We sort of touched on this subject in a different thread but the circumstances were different.
Your in lust with your best friend.
Tisha