Men are more than welcome to join in but I would love to hear the ladies on this.
Do you ladies feel uncomfortable about initiating sex in a relationship and what do you do?
Do you set the mood with candles, some lingerie and music. I personally think that this track will make a good strip song :
Yes!!! Inquiring minds want to know!
My wife does set the mood BTW. Makes me feel good just to think about those times that she has done that! Some of them are very memorable!
Really gets a guys attention… He will remember it fondly for many years to come!!! 
My husband never initiates sex. 
Ouch!
BTW, I also set the mood up as it were with my wife, though doesn’t always come to a happy ending for both! If it’s a full body message I’m giving her, like a Swedish with cranial sacral, sometimes she’ll fall asleep!!!
Have you gone nuclear on him with mone warfare up the wazzooo?
What happens?
Maybe he needs a 4x dose of Instant Shine and TUTH!
Meh, this is a private public forum.
I don’t really know what to make of him to be honest. When I amp up the phero warfare on him it works but when I go phero-free, he just doesn’t want to do anything. Also he works roughly seventy hours a week which is ridiculous. (so do i) It is even more frustrating because the days we do get off, we don’t ‘get off’. 
I’ve gone phero free these couple of months to be totally honest and it seems like he just doesn’t want to do anything anymore. He gives me some lame excuse like he’s worried I will feel used, or that he feels like he is treating me like a sexual plaything and he should not treat women like that etc. He was brought up in a strict conservative setting… when we do the dirty, it is almost like he is deathly afraid of letting go. Like God’s watching over his shoulder or something. 
Having said that, I just gave him a boner when I called him at work today.
PS: Why is everything out of stock? (
SNORT, You really sure you want to hear this… LOL
Nope not at all. Most times I have to restrain myself, I think I’m worse then him
Well it depends on the situation and where we are. I can initiate sex just about anywhere. I am not your music and candles type he knows to leave me alone then because I am probably meditating or something. I like to keep him on his toes so sex is not limited to the bedroom.
I walk around naked a lot (when the kids are not home of course)
He spends a lot of time out in the garage. He races cars. 
Once I got naked and went out in the garage, climbed up on his big tool chest and played with his tools while he was under the car. He didnt stay under there long LOL
Hmm I jump in the shower unexpectedly with him.
You know what I did the other day ??? I shouldn’t tell you. Ok I have to… Its so naughty. We were watching Destination Truth on TV (sci fi makes me hot) and I got up to go get a drink and he asked me to get him a snack. My son was out so I figured what the heck. I yelled in how about chocolate pudding. He said sounds good so I got naked and put the pudding on and went back out in the den. Never did see the end of that show.
Sometimes when we go out to a party or something I slip him a note telling him to meet me in the bathroom in 10 minutes then I use body language for those 10 minutes before we meet there to drive him a little mad LOL
Sometimes I call his cell phone and leave really dirty messages explaining exactly what I am going to do to him when he gets home. In detail.
Sometimes if Mr Happy wakes up in the night before he wakes up I take him for a ride.
I spontaneously skinny dip LOL
Nature makes me horny so I never make it through a hike with him without making a pit stop. Last time we were on a guided hike and almost got caught. ROFL
Sometimes I buy toys at the toy store and ask him… How do you work this thing ???
He can read my body language by now so I dont have to always go over the top but I do on occasion just to spice things up.
Sometimes if I dont want to initiate but I want him to make a move I will stare at his crotch from across the room and just play with my hair fidget and lick my lips.
My sure fire way to get him going is when I drink my tea. I put honey in my tea most of the time. I will dip my finger in the honey and keep sucking it off till he cant take it anymore and he tells the kids to go out to play LOL My kids are not kids anymore so they no what this means and they just roll their eyes .
See you dont need candles and music just some pudding and a honey pot. 
Girl the man need some shock therapy. Go make some pudding and put it on and tell him to eat it because its a sin to waste good food.
Tell him the shower head is broken and when he go’s in to fix it be waiting for him naked.
Leave some dirty notes in his lunch pal
Slip some horny goat weed in the tomato sauce. Seriously !!!
A girl has gotta do what a girl has gotta do.
Tisha
I rarely ever initiate sex. I used to when we were first married, but I got rejected so much and in such negative terms that I didn’t initiate for years. His loss.
So tish I think you should give lessons my girlfriend really is “too much of a lady” but I think she could learn great from example hahaha. Granted her mother is a gynecologist so she didn’t always hear the best things about sex growing up.
Well I am a coach P/T and I do coach in that area if the need arises. My parents were very affectionate with each other and talked to us about sex and when you spend half the year at a farm (my grandparents place) you see a lot of breeding going on so they talked about it alot to. LOL
My mothers advice when I got married was never ever stop flirting with your husband because if you dont someone else will and dont wear sweat pants or sweat shirts to bed. In fact dont buy them at all. Oh and never go to the bathroom with him in the room LOL You can shower with him there but just dont use the toilet.
To many men and women get comfortable once they are married. They stop doing all the little things they did when they were trying to attract each other in the first place.
Tisha
A life coach eh? That’s a pretty noble job from what I hear as long as you’re not an evil person lol.
Ah yes farms girls are the best haha. I has a short fling with one once for a couple months before she had to move. She totally came off as cute and innocent at first but boy did she sure know how to heat things up. Granted she was a lot older then me so that might of had something to do with it lol.
I couldn’t agree more though I’ve seen way to many people get stuck in a rut with their partner because they got comfortable and forgot how to flirt with each other. Same thing with the sex talk. My mom explained it all to me for the first time when I was 7 the pros, cons, and everything in-between.
Tisha I knew you would have some sexual vixen stories for me. Oh my goodness. I really would take your lessons no questions asked but seeing you give your advice freely on the forum I will just take note.
I have come along way this year but still feel that I need to open up more with my partner. I have these ideas of things to do in my head but for some reason I just don’t do them.
I know your husband ain’t going anywhere girl he is set for life.
Being conservative is one thing but as mom always says a man wants a lady in the streets but a freak in the bed. Men are not all bad and women tend to be more devious these days than ever. If a lady wants to keep her b/f, fiance , husband from some of these vultures who will spot him from a far and prey then she needs to up her game.
Totally agreed. It is human nature to take others for granted or to get complacent and I think it’s wonderful that you don’t only know this but practice it.