Hello all! Let me begin by saying that I just today discovered that there was a journal section, and I am very happy to know that there’s place for me to document my experiences with these products and perhaps get some feedback or comments from others.
I bought my first bottles (IH and IO) about a month ago. My intention was to help improve my relationship with my wife, which has been slowly deteriorating for awhile now. She’s become closed off and silent, and she just doesn’t want to talk to me about her emotions or what’s going on inside.
I love her with all my heart and I just want to be the best husband possible. That’s why I chose the IH and IO, hoping that a little of either one, or perhaps both together, would help her feel comfortable talking to me.
After reading countless posts from the veterans here, I decided to take it slow and try to notice if there was a difference. Initially, I sprayed 2 sprays of the IO, one on each wrist. I did this about a half hour before she came home from work. We spent the next few hours together, but she didn’t seem any different. We were physically close to each other (sitting on the couch) so I’m sure she should have felt the effects. Her behavior was not changed.
The next day, I tried the same experiment, only this time using the IH instead. Again, I put it on a half hour before she got home, and that evening we spent two hours in the car together. Still no change, no noticeable openness or desire to talk. She was actually almost silent for a whole two hour car ride. I even made several attempts to get her talking, hoping maybe I could kick start the IH, but it didn’t work at all.
A few days later, I figured I’d try to combine them to see if maybe she needed higher doses to feel the effects. So, I put a spray of IH on both of my wrists and one on my chest. Then I put a spray of IO on the back of my arms and a quick shot to the back of my neck. She and I spent several hours assembling a new Ikea bed we bought, so we were very close to each other the whole time. Still, no changes. She made no attempt to talk and resisted my attempts to start a conversation.
I’ve tried to rationalize and look for other things that may have interfered, but I can’t think of any. Could it be that she’s just not susceptible? Over the past few weeks, I’ve used the 2 products in different amounts, combinations, and parts of my body, trying to find something that will work on her. But nothing does.
Any ideas?