Fueling flames in WV

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Hi all, I’m D from WV. I’m a married man of 25. I’m here to learn a little more about what is out there to help me and with my wife of 5 years, been together for 10.

I’m an (now) outgoing person, strong mind, strong willed, articulate, eloquent and charismatic. It didn’t always used to be that way, but I am comfortable enough in my relationship with my wife that I can be a lot less shy, and I am not afraid of others as I used to be. Many thanks to a good confident relationship. I’m sure pheromones would wear well on me because of it.

The reason I am here, flat out, is to help her libido. Ever since she began the Depro Provera shot 9 years ago, quit 7 years ago, her desire tanked. For the last 7 years, if there was any sex at all, it was my duty to make it happen. There’s no her initiating, she has no desire, nor want for sex. She says she has no idea why, and wishes it weren’t so, she too thinks there is something wrong. Her hormones have definitely been out of whack since.

It isn’t relationship issues, but the sex sometimes can cause that. I’ll tell ya, it’s nothing we are or aren’t doing. We have a child together, and have been trying to have another for about five months now. But getting her in the mood has been nearly impossible.

I have been looking at possibly Turn Up The Heat, maybe in a not so strong amount, as I don’t want to attract every female around. It would be used only in an evening setting, when both of us would be home all evening, to use it only privately.

At this point, we are willing to try it, even though in the past, I’ve felt pheromones were sketchy. I mean, after all, its a hormone problem, why not use something to jump start the right hormones right?

(My views on Depro are simply: don’t use it! My g/f at the time (now wife) was a complete b!tch and I could barely stand her for two years before the ultimatum I gave her. The hormones were awful to her! It has messed up her reproductive system and I did not know her, she wasn’t the same person on them as she was off of them. She still isn’t quite who she was, but I’ll take her how she is, because that’s who I love.)

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Hello D… Welcome to Pherotalk…

TUTH is an excellent phero to rekindle dead flames of passion in a relationship… you can also consider using instant shine along with it in case there is stress carried over from work.. shine puts people in good mood…

but I believe that you are looking at a superficial remedy in pheromones when the underlying problems could be caused by contraceptives. hormonal contraceptives cause lack of desire in many females… However its strange that it has not reverted even after 7 years… something is amiss there. it could be something else too…
ideally you should be talking to your family doctor and getting some tests done to fix the underlying problem…

lets hope the pheros do the trick… TUTH AND shine cant go wrong..however is things still dont work… see the doc..

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Hey D!
I’ll cut right into it, just cause I’ve been where you are. My (now ex) fiancee was on Depo for nearly a year, and I know what you mean by the libido tanking. After I found this site, and trying TUTH, it worked amazing. If you can, get the spray kind. It doesn’t last as long, so you’d be able to wear it in the evening after work, and it’d be faded out enough by morning where you won’t have girls clawing at you.
Instant Shine works great too, cause it gives her body a bit of a “jump” into how she “senses” you, and that can naturally spark some romance. You’d (hopefully) want to move into her getting back that natural swing of it all and not always expect to have to spray something on.. although it never hurts to try other 'mones for work or outdoors :smiley: :wink:

Wish you the best of luck with it, and i’m always (officially back now) here to help anyone out!

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Thank you to you both.

We had actually been discussing her seeing her doctor. She now has an appointment to do so. I too thought that it should have settled out by now.

The Instant Shine sounds like a great idea, she tends to be irritable pretty often, I think her hormones make her feel bad all the time. Poor girl has it rough. It is also why I feel so terrible for (feeling like I) nag her about sex.

I think the pheromones will be what it takes to give her that jump start, to just get in the mood, because nothing has worked in 7 years. It has taken a toll on myself as well, I mean, even as infrequently as sex happens, I feel like a pervert for even having to ask my wife if she wants to. It should be something that just happens, all body language and timing. But it doesn’t. How does it make me feel when I can’t even get laid by my wife?

Her, personally, she claims she doesn’t need sex in her life at all to be happy, but she loves it anyways, it’s a real treat for her and she used to be the instigator Given that it is her very conservative stance, it doesn’t mean she doesn’t want it, because she does. She’s so conservative that I have no worries about there possibly being someone else, as some women quit putting out to you when there is. It’s just that there’s a libido problem and an ego problem for me, a hurt one.

When I make my order, I hear that a lot of times they give out samples of others. What would be the chances that I could get TUTH with IS as a sample? I got a gift certificate, and I’m trying to be discrete in ordering because she watches the bank like a hawk, and I have never tried this stuff and don’t know how it works. I don’t want the whole spill from her about buying stuff I don’t know about.

Once I do get this stuff, where should I start? Try one, then the other? Both? 1 spray?

Thanks guys, I appreciate the sharing of knowledge on here.

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To be honest, i’d start with both, just 1 spray of each about 30 minutes before you’re in direct contact with her.. gives it a chance to diffuse the (honestly distinguishable) neroli and other scents. if you wear cologne on the weekend, see about using the cologne as a cover scent.
or.. this is worth a shot.. i’ve tried it myself… armpits after a shower and deodorant. it hides the capabilities more, but its not like she smells your pits, i assume.

giving the best i can, i’ll try to think of some other ideas to help ya out too..

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Welcome D.via,

I can only imagine how you feel and as you can see we have had many persons come to us and some even worse of than you are.

I am glad you were able to get recommendations from members who are knowledgeable about your situation and who have been through it themselves

We hope things get better, keep us updated so we can help you where we can

Your gc was issued!

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Just an update for you guys. I received Turn Up The Heat. I tried the product on three occasions. One spray on the first and two on the other two tries.

The only difference I can see in her mood with the pheromones is that she is more talkative and close but not in a sexual way.

The doctors appt for all this is next week. Only time will tell.