Fundamental Attribution Error and Pheromones

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After my night at a singles’ event (see my “Massive Hits” thread), I realized something. When good things happened in the past, such as getting a phone number, having a good conversation with a girl on train, or even getting into a drunken make-out in a club, I thought it happened due to good luck, favorable circumstances, or an accident. But when bad things happened, such as getting rejected by every girl in a club, not being able to get a date for months, or saying something embarrassing, I thought I did something to cause it. One of my friends studies psychology, and she said that it’s called the “fundamental attribution error”.

Pheromones helped me change that. Oftentimes, self-esteem issues prevent people (myself including) from giving themselves enough credit for achieving something, especially in the social/dating/sexual department. But with pheromones, there’s one extra thing that I know I did myself in its entirety. Sure, interactions are 90% me and 10% pheromones, but that extra 10% provides just enough motivation, both logically and emotionally, to truly give myself full credit for the achievement. After all, I made the effort to put on the pheromones, so I deserve the good results from them.

Conversely, if something goes wrong, it’s easy to just blame it on having used the pheromones incorrectly. So if girls don’t feel comfortable with me, I can just assume I’m ghosting from using too much pheromones, and not worry about what I did wrong. Now, I don’t believe in passing the buck, but knowing that whatever I did wrong is something I can easily control (for instance, simply use less Ammo next time), it acts as a major self-esteem booster.

I’m sure opinions on this will vary, but this was my experience. Post your thoughts on all this, ‘cause I’d like to see how other people view the pheromones’ effect on self-esteem.

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Yours is actually a reversed one. Most people see themselves as the source of succes and blame failure on outside events.

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As a tiny player in business (compared to those millionaires business owners attended), I usually go to a lot of business seminars, alone. listened to the speakers, get enough information and went home immediately. I wouldn’t bother for the refreshment or tea or what they call a networking session since I don’t have guts to talk with many big shots around.

I was attending another seminar today and there were lots of professional around. I put 1 spray of IG on my hair, 1 spray IO on my neck and 1 shot of TUTH to one of my wrist before I dabbed on the other wrist.

I don’t know which one was responsible for me to stay longer for the networking session. I just stand in the middle of the room with ashtray, smoking a cigarette and I was able to actually be in a relax condition before there was one guy who wore a finer suit than mine, joined me for a cigarette. Given any day, my low self esteem would kicked in I probably have left the spot already but I managed to control it and decided to finish my cigarette.

At first I just smiled at him when he gave me this weird look like ‘hey I wanted to talk to you but I don’t know what to say?’ kinda thing. So I initiated the first “Hello” and he Helloed back. We talked a little about our nature of business, exchanged card and left. It was a one stick of cigarette period. I realized that during our short conversation, the guy was very active with his questions and shared his personal views about a topic from one of the speakers in the seminar. I, on the other hand was somehow in kind of shocked state of mind, don’t know how to pull out any topic of interest to say just listened to what he said and agreed on what he said.

So relating to your topic, I guess it might be true that pheromones could lift up your self esteem when socializing but in the end, it is your own call to break the ice. Today I learned that I could actually mingle around with everyone who in their Rolex’s providing that I myself are ready to consort.

On second thought, probably that guy was using pheromones too! Is there any pheromones that could make someone goes blank? Haha!

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I was going to nominate Jasmin’s post in the ‘pheromones and famous people’ thread but for some reason it won’t let me nominate in the lounge. Anyway, this post is worthy of a nomination. I can totally relate to what you’re saying becase I was exactly the same. Pheromones can cause so many knock on effects.

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It’s good to hear that people can relate to the way pheromones helped me. That’s probably more important than the actual hits, because in most cases, self-esteem feeds off itself. However, it can also lead to a vicious cycle: you need good experiences to have good self-esteem, and you need good self-esteem to have good experiences. But if you haven’t had anything good happen in a long time, it lowers your self-esteem, which lowers the odds of having another nice experience, which… well, you end up stuck in a rut.

Pheromones help break that cycle. When you’re self-esteem is starting to spiral into a downward cycle, putting on pheromones when you go out may give you that one good experience (even a small one, such as a conversation with touching hands and/or a hug at the end) that’ll give your self-esteem just enough boost to prevent it from spiraling any further down. And next time, you’ll feel good enough that you’ll want to attempt more, such as getting a phone number and/or a kiss.

It’s kind of funny how using pheromones helped me changed my perspective on them. I viewed them as just a tool to get hits. But now, I’m starting to see how they can be beneficial psychologically. (By the way, WildFlower, thanks for the nomination.)