Sorry to hear what happened with your ex, shit happens in life. Anyways, hope things work out for you sweetie 
But keep in mind, pheros wont change person’s thoughts about you. They just enhance you.
You should read this post
Alrighty, to make him feel relaxed, I find instant shine nice. It makes people around me in a light-happy mood, all smiley.
if you want to drive him crazy, and rip your clothes off (lol!) Lust after me is great, but it apparently smells, due to high cops. So it’ll take some time and experiments to find your right amount in a sweet spot with a good cover scent.
Instant honesty will help people open up, and it can be very intimate depending on discussion ofcourse (from posts I’ve read)
But like I’ve mentioned give the instant line a go. Hardly anybody gets disappointed. Instant sexiness is a better start. Slow and steady wins the race right? lol
When you first start off, don’t feel discouraged if you don’t get hits or if they are too subtle. You’re body is adjusting to your new signature, and so are other people. So give’em a chance lol.
Have fun sweetie