hi guys,
my name is James and im a 19 year old black guy from canada.
After i graduated high school i started my own business and sacrificed my social life for 15 months to work hard on my buisness and make it work.
Back in early november my buisness really took of and i started making a lot of money which is why im now returning to working on my social life.
Here’s my story and what im hoping to get out of pheros:
I really dont know how to say this without sounding like a cocky ass hole but basically it seems that im so good looking that its backfiring on me and girls get very intimidated and act very weird around me.
I started noticing this when i was in high school but now its really starting to annoy me.
Girls do the weirdest thing around me:
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Some stare at me like crazy when im not looking but immediately look away as soon as i look in their direction.
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Some are incredibly shy and nervous around me.
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Some act kind of aloof and rude to me but again i can tell they are attracted because they stare at me when im not looking.
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My very presence anywhere seems to make girls very uncomfortable and sometimes they act so weirdly its incredible.
I once walked into the ctrain and sat across a good looking blonde girl. The entire train ride when i looked to the side she would stare at me but when i looked in her direction she would stare at the floor as if she was completely refusing to make eye contact.
A few days ago i was at the airport with my sister she informed me that a brunette girl sitting across from me was staring at me like crazy. When i looked in her direction she rolled her eyes and looked at the floor refusing to make eye contact. When i looked in other direction she went back to staring at me.
I can name hundreds of situations like this that have happened in the last 5 years so this happens a lot.
Being a good looking guy has its benefits like the fact that i get IOI everywhere i go and that confident girls will even approach me sometimes and that i never really have to create attraction since its almost always there already but the negative things are equally bad like most girls getting intimidated and acting incredibly weird around me.
My question to you guys is what pheromone combination can help girls just relax and be normal around me.
I ordered instant openess as i think this can help me but any other suggestions is appreciated.
Also, im 6-2 and black if that helps you guys with suggestions.
Also, ive noticed that most good looking older girls and hot milfs dont get all weird around me…this is mostly with the girls my age ( 18-22 years old).
Also, here is a quote from a discussion on another forum where a bunch of really good looking guys where discussing this same issue that really describes the BS i also have to deal with.
**I never thought I’d find a discussion on this topic. Let me tell you, I’m so glad I did because I used to think it was only me. I understand exactly what everyone is going through. I’m 6 foot 2 with a muscular build, striking good looks, and eyes that one woman described as “bedroom eyes”. When your taller, bigger, or better looking than most of the people you encounter, you automatically stand out and receive alot of attention. I’ve experienced the good and the not so good sides of this. I would be a liar if I said that having a bangin chick pay you extra attention didn’t feel good for the ego at times, but when you always feel like you are the center of attention, you start to feel like your on stage in front of a crowd and everybody is watching you and every move you make. That part of it does start to suck after awhile. Sometimes I put up my own version of the ice shield that women put up when they get alot of attention from men. But I don’t like to walk around with a look that says, “Leave me the f*ck alone!”
But what pisses me off is when I see a girl showing signs of interest and then I say something to her and her whole attitude and demeanor change. It’s almost as though they just want to look at you and enjoy the fantasy but when you open your mouth and say something its like you interrupted their dream or fantasy and they look irritated. To be honest, it all gets really confusing. I’ll just say one last thing. It is true that alot of gorgeous women are afraid to be hurt and have low self esteem. Think about all the supermodels, actresses, and magazine chicks that have had everything from drug problems to eating disorders. You know why they had those problems? Because their self esteem becomes tied into the attention and approval they get from others based on their looks. Understand this: if you base your self esteem on other people’s attention or approval, you really become a slave to their approval. It makes you weak and insecure because you don’t control the source of your self esteem, OTHER people do. I think that is why a gorgeous woman being rejected or otherwise hurt by a very good looking guy is worse for them than by a more average looking guy because it is a severe blow to their self esteem. I’ve known hot chicks who had some slob for a boyfriend and had some good looking guys trying to get with her. But later I found out she was hurt by some good looking guy in the past and she wants to protect herself from that pain and instead chooses a guy whom she feels is less of a threat to her ego. Well, that’s my two cents or 2 dollars depending on how you look at it.
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