Hello, and welcome!
Wow, that was some introduction! Thanks for taking the time to outline your circumstance and goals so clearly.
If you haven’t used the products before, I’d advise against starting with a mix of 4 different pheros, especially with a putative in the mix. The reason for this is that each person is individual, and what works for one may not be the best dosage or combination for another. It is really best to try each phero out individually, and find your “sweet spot” with it before trying another. This will give you a true grasp of what each one does, how much you need, and how it could be combined with others to create the effect you’re looking for.
How to find your sweet spot...
I would recommend Instant Honesty for relational issues. It promotes deep communication and transparency, and can help with many of the reasons that we struggle in relationships. It promotes a feeling of trust and intimacy, and helps lower the inhibitions that disrupt good communication.
TUTH is a powerful phero, designed to produce a sexual desire response from her. But it should be handled gently, and its important to remember that too much can produce the opposite result.