Hi sifaradia - Welcome to Pherotalk. 
No, that is an excellent intro and I hope the lady members will be along soon with some very good suggestions for you.
Now as a guy, I can probably only speak for the more unisex/social products, which could help you significantly. For mood boosting and confidence, Instant Shine is a prime choice. It creates a happy and good to be arounf feeling for you and people you meet - What better to help you overcome anxiety?
Also, IO will help promote and smooth flowing conversations, whilst IH can be good to increase closeness and bonding. You can wear them together to approximate the now discontinued CTTM2 but personally I find all the betanol can make things get a bit giddy and after a few hours, leave me feeling a little drained. Notrhing that some good food, fruit juice and a wee rest won’t resolve though.
As mentioned above, yes TUTH can be excellent with an established partner but it can also be a little bit too horny on first meeting but that depends on environment too - eg with a little social buffering (IO/IS or IH) it can be good in clubs but maybe not so good for a sedate dinner, so it is up to you to consider how your unresolved attraction for this guy stands.
Hope this helps and this thread may also prove useful: