My name is Chris and I’m a 25 year old male from a major city in Saskatchewan, Canada.
I have an introverted personality and have spent most of my life focusing solely on career and at one point soccer until a bad knee injury. I graduated with an honours degree in computer science and have a mind that constantly over-thinks and calculates everything around me but I have used this to build a stable life with a few reliable friends, buy a house and advance in my career quickly and early.
While I tend to enjoy my alone time, it’s not so much fun spending all my time alone and events with my ex of two and half years now followed by subsequent events with the few women (not family related) in my life in the last year has left my confidence with women absolutely devastated.
I discovered a members mention of this site on the bodybuilding.com forums and after some reading have decided to try pheromones to help build my confidence up again to a natural level. At the same time, I believe the intricate science behind working with phermones will help keep my mind of the typical mentality I hold when around women, which is: “There is no reason for this person to even want to talk to me. Why should I bother?”
Whilst it is the case that there are products here that will help with your introverted nature and confidence, I must say that I am concerned about using pheros for this purpose. Mainly because you do get inured to their effects fairly quickly and they become ineffective.
It may be better to work on your personality in other ways, then the pheros will complement your new-found confidence and expression in a very surprising way. I found this after a long dead period when I was at rock bottom after the failure of two serious LTRs in a row. It took a long time to get back on my feet socially but when I did, finding pheros was like the icing on the cake.
However, if you want to go straight into pheros, Instant Shine would be my first suggestion ans it is a straightforward happy/feelgood/social and confident product. Which works well on its own but when paired with IO can loosen everyone’s tounges.
Then there is the none products like Ammo and the far stonger IJ. Ammo is a balanced mix of the three main pheros that is sexy, masculine and lightly confidence boosting - suitable for almost all situations. IJ probably has the biggest confidence boost but its main downside is that its high none content can work against you and actually drive away the people you hope to get closer to and if you are not congruent with its signature, you can be taken for someone very creepy/too horny or even aggressive. So use this one carefully.
Then there is A314, this again offers a different kind of boost. A very calm, cool and in-command feeling that has a lot of status and encourages great trust and respect. Utterly brilliant for work/professional situations and good at signaling your LTR qualities but it can be a bit daunting in general socialising/dating. A sometimes all too serious/unapproachable vibe. Again, good congruency is required. IG is a much lighter suave/status product that could be better here.
I’d say, go for AMMO, IShine and IO to start out. AMMO and IShine for the confidence with AMMO giving off the sexy man vibe. The IShine would also get others relaxed to be around you. The IO would through in the signal that you are Very Easy to talk to… about anything. You could also get more confidence with it on as well, by being at ease to talk to others.
Now, you should also be focusing on those aspects about yourself that highlight YOU. What you can offer to others, appreciate your achievements. Bring to the fore that YOU are one that can provide good things to others, YOU are the CATCH!
I like the response by Mobo not only on the mone recommendations but the focus on YOU and your personality… brush it, cultivate it, nuture it, accept it and love it!!
I hope you do start up a journal as it not only would be useful for your own growth, but, I would expect others would relate to what your going through and benefit from your experiences.
The personal advice you have gotten is pretty good. I know it seems easier said than done but you do have to pick yourself up, brush yourself off and concentrate on who you are as a person. In the end it will make you better as part of a team.
You also got some good advice on pheros. Look at the thread in my sig black about using A314 and Ammo together. It will give you a killer signature. Also think about the IO as has been mentioned - it is good for helping with those initial conversations. And Ishine will help make people happy to be around you.
Hope this helps some. Let us know what you decide to do.
Thank you for the advice. IS, IO and IH seemed like the ones that could benefit me the most. AMMO is good suggestion and I will keep it i mind.
I plan on ordering all of these, but will move slowly. I’m someone that likes to research and plan long beforr I execute which is why I’m here, to learn so that when I’m ready to seriously use pheros as a personality boost, I will be knowledgeable.
