I’m a 20 year old college student and only recently have I learned about all the possible uses for pheromones. My main reason for becoming interested in pheromones is romantic.
For the past two years I have been dating the most wonderful woman; she and I have been very close friends for many years prior to our dating. Because we ended up attending different schools, we have a somewhat long-distance relationship and only see each other once or twice per month (with the exception of summer and holiday breaks from school). In terms of personality, she and I are both pretty shy people, and I don’t think that she would respond well to a pheromone that makes me seem overly dominant to her.
I’ve come here looking for help because somewhat recently she told me that she wants to take a hiatus from our relationship. She has told me that she is stressed out by school and prospects of figuring out what she is going to do post-graduation. She has had a very low desire for romantic/sexual interactions lately (which is why we are on a hiatus) and I believe that this is due a number of factors which decrease sex drive such as all the stress she feels currently and the fact that she is on SSRIs, which are known to lower sex drive.
For now, she and I still see each other when we can, but I know that she is still attracted to me and has feelings for me because she always is cuddly and affectionate when we get together.
That being said, I’m looking for a pheromone that will reinforce her feelings of romantic and sexual attraction to me to the point where every time that she sees me, she will feel very comfortable and even a bit aroused, suggesting that I’m the “right” guy. I am confident that the right boost would help reignite her sexual desires and allow us to end our hiatus and continue dating, and would probably help reduce her stress in the process.
I have found the “Nuclear Fallout” thread in the Men’s discussion forum very helpful ( Nuclear Fallout: Building a Pheremone WMD ), especially the updated post on page 5 that talks about more recently updated. From the research I’ve done so far, a combination of A314, Instant Honest, P74, and TUTH seems the most promising option for me. I was just wondering if more experienced pheromone users could tell me if that is a good idea given our personality types and if there is anything else that should be added or subtracted to help her view me as more than just a close friend, but someone romantically irresistible.
Wow, that was some introduction! Thanks for taking the time to outline your circumstance and goals so clearly.
If you haven’t used the products before, I’d advise against starting with a mix of 4 different pheros, especially with a putative in the mix. The reason for this is that each person is individual, and what works for one may not be the best dosage or combination for another. It is really best to try each phero out individually, and find your “sweet spot” with it before trying another. This will give you a true grasp of what each one does, how much you need, and how it could be combined with others to create the effect you’re looking for.
I would recommend Instant Honesty for relational issues. It promotes deep communication and transparency, and can help with many of the reasons that we struggle in relationships. It promotes a feeling of trust and intimacy, and helps lower the inhibitions that disrupt good communication.
TUTH is a powerful phero, designed to produce a sexual desire response from her. But it should be handled gently, and its important to remember that too much can produce the opposite result.
Thanks for the reply, MoonlightBliss! The link to the article was very helpful in enlightening me about how to find the right pheromone dosage for myself. I think at this point I’m going to get A314, IH, and TUTH to experiment with once I get my $25!
I think the pheromones will work wonders if as you say she has feelings for you still and she is just stressed and trying to figure things out.
Pheromones work in a subtle way to bring out emotions things that are already there.
I feel like what you are doing is not giving your partner the necessary space she needs to figure things out.She is at a stressful point in her life and needs your understanding and maturity.
Nothing that is for us will miss us, you dont’ need to fear because she needs a break and her sex drive is low
Patience is in order here
I think you are tying to do what pheromone isn’t, force her to give out what she can’t right now because she is under much stress and just needs some time to figure things out.
Hi Mickaelia, thanks for letting me know the gift card was issued. I went ahead bought a bunch of to-go sized pheromones to try out.
I also just wanted to let you know that my intent is not to use pheromones to overtly influence her to do anything sexual, but rather to bring out the latent emotions that are still present.
I fully understand that pheromones are not a way to magically change how she’s feeling. I get that the effects will be subtle and that she isn’t going to have a raging libido simply because I use a few pheromones. My goal, which I guess I didn’t state too well in my first post, is to ensure that amidst all her stress and confusion, her latent feelings for me don’t get buried and disappear.
I love her immensely, more than anyone else in the world, and I can’t imagine using pheromones to try and force her to have sex. I will wait as long as she needs me to because she is just that important to me. In fact, the only reason I mentioned sexual desire in the first post was because I’ve read research suggesting that the same neuro-chemical processes which elicit the desire response also help to reinforce feelings of closeness and intimacy (again, something I probably could have explained better). My primary goal with these pheromones, as stated, is to make me appear more on her radar as someone she can be open with and trust because she is normally very closed and personal about her problems and she has acknowledged that she wants to be more open with people but has a hard time overcoming that barrier.
Anyway, thank you for your concern. I’ll get a chance to meet with her in about and week and hopefully then I can observe what effects some of these pheromones have for me and her.