I have a question… I have already looked through the guide that is sticky in the mens section of the forum, but I still do not know which would be best for me to try.
Here is my situation:
Last year I met a girl briefly, and we kept in touch.. but by the time we met again, she had a bf in the states. We realised more and more how much we liked each other, and have been talking almost everyday (even when she is now in the states for 3 months visiting her bf)… and I asked her about it one day, she said if she didnt have a bf, she would definitely want to be with me.
So… basically there is a high chance of it working out with her anyway… all the attraction is there, it’s just the bf still standing in the way.
When she gets back from the states in june, we have several plans to do various things, including camping together at a festival etc (where we will be in close contact).
Now, I don’t want to do anything without her breaking up with her bf… but just wondering if anyone would recommend something that could help her to feel that primevil attraction towards me when we are together, that could be the one thing pushing her over the edge to realise that it is really me she wants.
Hopefully I have made it reasonably clear what my situation is! Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
The big thing to remember is that these products are not Harry Potter magic. They will not make her suddenly fall in love with you and forget all about her boyfriend.
At the same time I somewhat suspect that distance may be taking its toll on her relationship and things will work themselves out naturally. I hope she is not playing you along …
As far as the attraction side goes, you can work with:
Ammo - a little none to remind her that you are definitely interested. Instant Honesty - to help keep those feelings of connection up.
IShine - to help her continue to feel happy to be around you.
Thanks very much for your reply. Oh yes I totally understand that… and believe me, most of the work is done… we couldn’t possibly have a deeper connection. I truly believe we will be together eventually…
I just came across these and thought, well why not try something in case it helps things a long a little.. I mean, there’s no harm in trying right?
Hi and welcome! This is a friendly place and full of great advice! Use the search button too - my post count would be in the thousands if I didn’t use that a lot…most of the best tips I’ve had were from old info, much of it from people who don’t post here much anymore, if at all…so searching is good!
So, in your situation what you’ve got to watch out for is getting into the friend zone. You have that deep connection that goes from physical attraction, to mental attraction and bond…and stays mental attraction and bond…and soon you’re seen as much as a brother as anything else. Basically you’re desexualised and a friend who doing anything with would be seen as a bit weird. I’ve been there, had that so I’m warning you! :o
In your shoes I’d go for Ammo - just get a To Go of this and Instant Shine with the GC and all you have to worry about then is postage cost. If you like them then get bigger bottles later - this is what I did and I’m slowly but surely working on getting the bigger bottles now. Ammo is used by many here as a social attractant - it’s -none (sexual), -rone (protector / warmth) and a-nol (chatty friendly). (I’ve paraphrased things here - a search will give you more info.)
IG also has a good rep for a “cool” vibe. It’s “Gentleman” in the Sean Connery sense rather than the “Hugh Grant” sense and a favorite of mine in many self-made mixes - IG + IO + IS is a favorite for socials where I don’t know anyone. Or I put in IH instead of IO for bonding.
It’s tempting to go crazy and put on loads of sprays but less is sometimes more (as well as cheaper!) I’m 36 and for me more than 1 spray of Ammo can backfire for me and people either blank me or get twitchy so start low and work your way up if you need to.
Above all, good luck, and let us know what works so we can learn from you too!
ps. it’s not magic. You still have do most of the work, but I find mones can give me that little extra when I need it!
