Hi Daniel,
I’m a middle aged gay man in the US. I started using pheromones just recently for both social and business purposes. Your self description seems to be how I would have described myself, so I can at least tell you what has worked for me.
Instant Gentleman might do you a lot of good. In the times I’ve used it, I have gotten the attention of masculine gay and bi men. Instant Openness and Instant Shine are also very good to invite people to talk to you. These three products in any combination will open the doors for you in appropriate social situations. However, make sure to test them individually to find the appropriate dosage for you.
I haven’t used Mystery Boy yet. My dancing and clubbing days are over. I mostly meet guys at gay social functions where feedback is somewhat immediate. At other types of social events, I have to follow up to assess how guys really felt. (I’m not sure how it is in Netherlands, but in the US I have a hard time figuring out if someone is really interested in me or not when out in public. I have to wait until we are in private. If you follow up with the guys who gave you compliments, you might find that they were interested, but not confident enough to say so in a public setting.)
I’m still experimenting and will be posting my observations on my journal. You can join me there, and when you start using pheromones, make sure to write about your experience. We could use more gay men on this forum.
Anyway, glad you’re here on the forums! Everyone here is extremely helpful.