Welcome to the forum Daniel-R,
Unfortunately I cannot assist as much as you may need here, but I can offer that there are a few gay gentleman within the forum that may be able to swap advise and Pheromone ideas with you. The general pheromones that would help you get people talking to you and opening up are going to be Instant Openness and Intant Honesty though. If you want to sort of dazzle them Instant Shine may get their attention…but I admit I’m a bit out of my depth. The links below may help you.
Mind you, pheromones work slightly different with everyone and you may get different results, so please do take all comments with a grain of salt or a smidge of skepticism.
Mobocaster made a good set of recommendations for a gentleman your age as well.
This last post below provides a little information on Mystery Boy a product designed for the gay gentleman
Suggestions for things to try and some to limit use of are in Jamesatly’s post.
Welcome to the forum and hope to learn from your posts as well.