Welcome to Pherotalk Paulacl!,
I was going to suggest Instant Sexiness B but closer to the end of your intro you mentioned that you already have ordered and received it. 
I think it will help to balance out the Independent vibe that you say might “scare” guys away. Instant Sexiness B has a flirty vibe to it.
Since you already have products the best advice that I can give you is to follow this guide by Steve on how to find your Sweet Spot (the number of sprays that works best for you):
How to find your sweet spot... (How to find your sweet spot...)
This will help you to get your BEST RESULTS and it will give you a firm grasp on what each product does for YOU. Then you will be able to pinpoint exact amount that will work for you when you begin mixing product together.
Hope To hear about your pheromone adventures soon
ClintX2