Hello batman11 ,
Welcome back to AD.
IFM was known to cause depression in higher doses and has been discontinued because of this (Why Instant Female Magic was pulled: SteveO cites women using it to depress men)
Coming on to your situation : u need a socio-sexual combo . check 2 products from commercial line add a putative to it (best for beginners, without much experimenting ).
my bet will be on : IS + IO + P74 . (for social mixups) . replace IS by TUTH in sexual settings . Keep p74 upto 10 Mcg for Social mixes.
"Take care friend, u r Precious "