Welcome!
I’d do a bit of experimenting if I were you regarding your wife.
It could be that you just washed her with way too much androstenone. That can cause you to be ignored or come across as pervy. How old are you?
Sounds like you and your wife have a few issues. Has she been this way for very long? Keep in mind these products aren’t a quick fix piece of magic. You have to work with them. TUTH won’t do a whole lot if she’s sat at the computer and you’re walking around the house wearing it. All the old rules still apply. Take her out for dinner, have a conversation with her, go for a walk, take some time out together.
I won’t pretend to know about your relationship and I won’t try to pry - but in any situation it is more you than it is the mones. You gotta be working with them. Even tuth won’t make an extremely unsexy situation arousing.
As for the focus issue with IS: Yep! Coupled with IG, I get away with murder at work nowadays! 
likewise with other products, even when drenched with IO : if I am a grumpy git with a headache then my buddies won’t be chatty and fun around me.
I would say before you worry about the sex, try some IO and IH to have some chats with your wife. Find out what’s wrong etc.
I wish you the best of luck with your wife & experiments 