I am a curious 16 year old kid (male) living in southern California (San Gabriel Valley). I heard of this site from another forum that I frequent and I decided to sign up out of curiosity. I am the kind of guy that will be very interested in things he doesn’t know much about just because it is somewhat of a mystery (which has resulted in me becoming somewhat of a nerd).
Anyways, I signed up to learn more about pheromone sprays since I have been interested in them for a while. I have seen a ton of pheromone ads online but I have kind of figured they were fake, and being a teenager, a cologne solely dedicated to getting me laid didn’t seem like a good idea. When I heard of this site I decided to visit it out of boredom and I was pleasantly surprised at how much information is on here and the quality of it as well. I was also pleased to see some pheromones and advice applicable even to my lifestyle/situation (stuff that could be used for social engineering).
As for girls and stuff, I really doubt pheromones could help me very much because I know for a fact that half of my problem is mental and the other half is behavioral. I have never really had a girlfriend or anything, nor have I ever really talked to the girl with the intent of flirting, hitting on her, or whatever. Despite that girls tend to be alright with talking to me or are at least most are not uncomfortable with me around (as opposed to my friends) so I know that it is directly caused by me being shy and/or an asshole.
First of all, you’re right: pheros are not some magic bullet for getting women. My best analogy is that you could get a really amazing extreme makeover to make yourself look as hot as Brad Pitt, and while you would be attractive, if you sit in a corner all night and don’t approach anyone, chances are that no one is going to approach you either. No matter how attractive a guy may be, if I am getting an uncomfortable, awkward, or weird vibe from him, I certainly am not going to approach him.
That being said, knowing that pheros DO actually make you more attractive, hopefully it would boost your confidence enough to help you out of your shell.
I think something like Instant Openness would be good for you initially, just to get women talking. I think it’s great that you have done the research and understand the actual chemistry behind it—easier to tell the fakes from the genuine article. Jasmin sells some really wonderful stuff, and I would recommend it to anyone, anytime, anywhere.
Again, welcome, and don’t be afraid to ask questions.
You might try some IO and possibly some IH. They’ll help make it easy to talk to people, and for them to talk to you. That’s often the first step in developing relationships.
Welcome Flippy, with what you said above you are more than halfway toward fixing those issues. There are many great books on self-help and dating, and I can tell that you are intelligent enough to modify any issues that need working on.
With that being said, you have found probably the best source of pheromone information on the net, and a group of people who are absolutely incredible, who will help you along oin your discovery into pheromones. If you have any questions just ask.
jpballerina and Gone With The Wind have both given you some great advice. I might also suggest Instant Shine as it will give you and those around you a happy, feel-good effect.
Again, welcome to the forum. I think you’re really going to like it here and the members will rapidly become like a second family. I look forward to reading about your phero fueled successes.
It is true that people don’t really get much benefices if they don’t try to improve and change themself. But it is more true that phero will make that a lot easier if u have the will!
To overcome shyness, you can try instant openness for urself. But you need to make sure that u dont spray it everyday or your body will get used to it and won’t respond. It is much different for others since they aren’t expose to the product for a long time.
I was actually looking at Instant Openness, Instant Honesty, and Instant Shine since they seem to have a ton of benefits in all areas… something that might give me the charisma of Bill Clinton.
Concerning girls, I am a bit shy and also a bit unapproachable for a couple reasons. The main reason is that I try not to talk to girls I find attractive because I fear that they may be unintelligent, shallow, a total b*tch, annoying, etc. I tend to associate physical beauty with “inner beauty” and the fear of that image being broken even outweighs the fear of getting rejected.
jpballerina has given some great advice and considering she is a babe and all I would listen to her. Heck it was so good I threw my rep points her way. She rocks, and did I mention that she is a babe.
Why does her post deserve rep points? Truthfully I just couldn’t have said it better.
I’ll be sending out your gift certificate out tonight.
Flippy, I think I might suggest some a314 as well . . . probably in lieu of the Instant Honesty if you’re trying to save some cash. It will give you a James Bond kind of feel . . . like you could conquer the world. Also, it helps you appear of “higher value”, i.e. that you are important enough that women should want your attention.
What you need is an injection of confidence (not arrogance! Confidence.) It’s sexiest thing in the world. And I recommend a314 for that. Good luck!
Good luck!