Hey - New Here and Not A Fan of Cologne Smells. Will Pheromones Be OK

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My name is Mark, and I just turned 21. I was looking for cologne reviews and I found this site. I’ve never used cologne or anything like that, possibly because I’m sensitive to smells and usually don’t like them. But this looks kind of interesting, I’d like to see the molecular science behind it though. I go to school for chemical engineering at a small school in Indiana, but am in Houston for breaks since my parents live there.

I am gay, and it wasn’t until a couple months ago that I came out. I have been briefly been introduced to the gay scene, but it’s still very new to me. However I don’t act “gay” in any way. I grew up doing gymnastics until a back injury forced me to quit, and now do diving for college. I’ve been though two back surgeries and it still hurts 24/7 after 7 years since I got hurt. I’ve conceded that its a chronic back injury, but I’m still really athletic and like playing sports like tennis, frisbee, soccer, volleyball, baseball, etc.

However socially I’m not gifted at all. I’ve always been shy growing up, and still am that way. I think I might have Social anxiety or something like that. It’s hard to talk to people, especially in group settings. I have the “I don’t know what to say” syndrome. It seems like my mind is always blank when I’m around people. Personality wise I’m extremely serious… which is great in sports, but not socially. Because my back hurts all the time it makes my body tense, which makes it even harder to relax in social situations. I also have almost no confidence, and many people wouldn’t think just by looking at me since I’m very attractive. I also have a very stern face and don’t smile often so i might come off as intimidating.

What I’d mostly like to gain from this is the social aspect. I’ve started taking anti-depressants, bought some books to give me tips, and will go to a psychologist soon, but I’d do anything that might be helpful. It was probably about 6 months ago that I realized i needed to change. I’ll need to be more outgoing to find a job, but also while working. Communication extremely important in engineering and I’m really worried about it. I also needed to change because I don’t really have a social life and am very lonely. My only two “friends” for the first two years of school kind of ditched me when I came out, so that was really hard. I recently started hanging out with a someone who goes here (He’s gay also, met him online) and his friends, but I’m so quiet and i hate it. I’ll also hang out with my roommates once in awhile, but again I’m too quiet. Hopefully this will help by maybe influencing people to talk to me more. I don’t expect this to be some miracle experiment, but more of an addition to what I’ve been doing. I’d also like something if I go out or on dates if that eventually happens.

This is kind of long, but it really tells a lot about me :wink:
I actually wouldn’t know what else to add.

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Hi there,

Welcome to the forum. It is a nice long introduction.

For gay attraction, Mystery Boy is your choice. It gives you the attraction needed.

For social, try IO. It can make people want to talk to you. It boost your social ability. You will enjoy lots of light conversation.

IH on the other hand will make the conversation more quality. The conversation will last longer and people will feel like they know you for ling time. It will build the bond between you and people.

Shine is another hero which helps you socially. It makes the people around you in good mood.

Try them and I am sure you will like them.

Good luck

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Welcome to the forum and thanks for telling your story. It is nice to have someone test pheros in the gay world.

Mystery Boy is the phero for gays, so definitely get that. You also got some good recs for the socials. Instant Shine will also be helpful in taking the edge off your nerves. We call that a self effect. You can find out more about using pheros on yourself over at the male forum.

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Helo and welcome to the forum.

I would really think about the social products. They can be used by anyone in a variety of situations.

IO is great for general conversations,
IH can foster feelings of connection and hence more in depth conversations.
Shine can leave everyone feeling happy.

Welcome again to the forum.

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It looks like the Shine, Openness, and Honesty is what I’ll probably get. I would get the mystery boy but there is no ToGo bottle for that.

Also I was wondering how it works from a chemical standpoint. Do the sprays themselves release the pheromones, or is it more of a chemical reaction to alter the pheromones we already have. Also, what are the biological pathways that occur to cause someone to alter their typical persona. I’ve been trying to find this info in the forms, but everything says what it does and not how it works.

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Hello Welcome to Pherotalk :slight_smile:

Great intro. Well I think your choices are good. IH IO and Ishine are great products and will give you a good feel for what mones can do. If you want to look into other mones mixes after that then move on to mystery boy and some of the other mixes.

Keep in mind I am not a scientist, I can only share what I do know…

The spray releases the pheromone. The mone molecule diffuses off the body and into the air where it is then inhaled up the nasal passage to the neurotransmitters in the brain which then activate receptors. The pathway would depend on which mone your using and which neurotransmitter or system is activated . There are alot of different mones so the pathway would be different for each.

You can check down in the studies and abstracts section there may be more on this subject there. I also suggest asking your question down in the Pheromone theory section where it can be seen by more of the scientific members of the forum.

Your GC is on its way :smiley:

Tisha

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I have found the basic neroli “cover scent” in most of the pheromone products here is pretty faint and fades relatively fast. I have never been a big fan of colognes myself in the past as so many seemed overwhelming, but I figure part of the problem is that some people just pour the stuff on too liberally - haven’t learned the fine art of subtlety.

I think you can also get some products in “unscented” versions (meaning no additional “cover scent” has been added. You still get the scent of the pheromones themselves).

If you can go for the products in ToGo sizes you can at least try them out mainly to see if you have any unwanted reactions yourself, and test out any cover scents.