Hi Coeur d’Or (great name!) and welcome!
From what you’ve posted I think you’ve already read this post https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-do-i-qualify-for-a-25-gift-certificate/19934 but just in case it’s worth a look because it contains some great info. 
You’re doing the right thing asking questions - this community is full of great people who want to help.
I’ve done a quick search for you on Instant Shine and Instant Openness and found some posts that might be useful:
Instant Shine and women: Instant Shine for Women..
General male & female pheromone discussion: Difference btwn male & female pheromones
I’ll duck out now but I’m sure a lady will come in with some tips and advice soon!
Good luck!