My name is Nicole and I’m currently a designer living in NYC.
I love going out, having fun, and meeting new people.
I don’t have problems getting to know people one to one and people usually warm up to me easily, but I feel shy and insecure in larger groups of people. People will tell me I have the image of an ice queen in large groups, but when they get to know me (usually I have to be the one to approach them), I’m warm and bubbly.
People also tend to think I’m taken when I’m not. I’m constantly in the “friend-zone” or I feel like my relationship with guys is very shallow.
I learned about pheromones fairly recently, but I’m really curious to try them out. I have never tried any pheromones, so recommendations would be appreciated.
welcome to the forums! Just from reading your post you’ve told us a great deal. It sounds like you might come off as an ‘ice queen’ to guys who might be initially misreading your shyness. Typically guys or girls attribute shy/insecure tenancies in attractive people or higher status individuals as arrogance. If I were to make a suggestion based on that alone, I would say that some self effect pheromones might be in order!
I would try out something like Instant Shine to make you feel like a superstar and break out of your shy bubble. Something like Instant Openness or Instant Honesty will help you either build report or reach deeper conversations quickly. Then to break out of the friend-zone I would go with Instant Sexiness/B. It telegraphs attraction to a guy and is a hard signal to miss.
Wow, I have never heard of girls mention being stuck in the “friends zone”, but I guess it must happen. Like Rich said, sometimes guys just assume based on someone looking good, that they must be taken.
The advice of Instant shine is great, as it does help with shyness. IS/B should be good for helping with the sexual vibe.
don’t worry about freezing up in large groups. A lot of people do not like that. It is just a matter of practice. At first just make yourself smile more, try to ignore the large crowd and instead and pick out one or two people to have a conversation with.
The social products can all help with that.
IO will help with those intitial conversations. Combine that with IShine which helps the people around you feel happy to be near you and you have a party in a bottle. Well two bottles really but you get the idea.
On the other hand you have IH which is one of my favorites. IH helps the poeple around you feel commected to you. so a couple sprays of IO combined with ca couple sprays of IH will helpw ith both the initial conversations but then create feelings of connection and deeper conversations as the conversation progresses.
I am sorry to hear that. Yes, girls as well as guys can be put in the friends zone and it is usually for the same reason.
You come across as “too nice” for lack of a better term or a pushover.
With the men , they have to show the women that they are nice but they can always be jerks and they won’t be around forever so don’t push your luck.
With women it is somewhat the same. Men like a challenge and a chase and appreciate you more if you let them work for it. So you have to find that healthy balance.
Also, some women are just used for sex and the men never make that commitment, when it comes to that point they say lets just be friends.
Got to be careful not to be used and protect your heart.
Socialize and have fun but allow pheromones and the knowledge we have on this forum to pick up on different signs and signals.
You will get there once you start opening up yourself to see and spot the bs before it’s too late.
