havin anxiety is flat out lame and its nothin i can do about it plus i got this thing about rejection i just hate it … i just dont like saying stuff first i want to attract , what pheromone will work for me?
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Instant Shine - PERFECT for this!
I’m a quiet guy, don’t tend to initiate conversation, but with this, there were no worries. I compared it once to when you’re at a party, drink only a little, and feel like you’re coming out of your shell. Only without the nasty side effects of drinking alcohol!
With IS people feel more comfortable around you, so the conversations aren’t forced and awkward, they’re fluent and natural. This is due to both the self-effects and effects on others - check out my journal in my signature, my first couple of posts are purely about IS!
Also, could you elaborate a little about your personality, the specific type of people you want to attract (sex, age, location, one-on-one, groups etc.), and your type of personality (before you know someone, and once you get to know someone)?
All this will help you get more specified advice, and that $25 Gift Certificate!
Welcome, and good luck!
thanks for takin the time to reply to me , my personality i dont have one or either i copy everybodys because i was home schooled i really dont know how to act in front of people im just now getting out and experiencing the world i just get nervous over everything , im always nerved out frantic uncomfortable talkin to girls and alot of people , i just want a girl any girl it dont matter the look , i just get tired of people thinkin im weird because i got nobody , my age 26 , male , im from chicago i want a girl that want me thats all
Well, 2 things that will work: 1. Instant Shine (as recommended by Dream_Brother) and 2. Instant Openness. The shine gives you that confidence boost while IO seems to make your nerves more calm and makes you feel more “open” to others, many claim its a good one to get over that anxiety fear.
To give you a great example, this came from one of the female users:
I also recommend to stop thinking that you are “weird”. I had those same feelings when I was in high school, people thought I was a “weirdo” because I looked like Steve Urkel. To this day I still have feelings of anger about it, but I luckily never resorted to violence to solve the problem. Eventually I said to myself “fuck it”, changed my complete wardrobe with help of my female friends & sisters (don’t ask your mother for advice, trust me on that one) and after that I was the “hotshot” of the school according to the ladies.
These days I am still the “weirdo”, but the “cute and handsome” kind that woman like to stick around rather than avoid. I also told myself to “forget” about running after woman. Too tiresome. I am a fisherman, not a hunter with unlimited stamina. I rather make myself attractive and lure them in. If they bite, they bite… If they don’t, well… Then they lost some great boyfriend material. Yes, I may be difficult to handle, but my girlfriend loves me for who I am, but sometimes I get complaints that I should go out more often and go to the gym because she wants me to be the hotshot that she can parade around with (and when she is happy, she makes sure I am happy too).
i liked reading dream brother and mrseekers post im going to try those products
A lot of this can be helped through personal CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) - Try to understand that everyone has their own lives, fleeting from one thing to another, so they most than likely won’t have time or the care to judge you. What helped me with Social Anxiety, is that I took a minute whilst I was in town to look at how many people there were, living their own lives, in their own perception of reality. Then I thought, how often do I single one person out and think ‘he looks really uncomfortable and anxious’? - never, because I don’t have the time to criticise everyone.
Its the same from their point of view. You’re just another face in the crowd of 7billion people in the world, no one is out to judge you, as long as you can help yourself see that.
It’s a long process, but when you come to see things with a different point of view, it will help!
Perhaps you visit a doctor, they may refer you for some counselling to teach you coping mechanisms, and ways to alter your thought trails.
Good luck
Hi whatisthisstuffreally,
Great username! Thanks for dropping in and being so open with us. There are many people out there just like you, believe it or not. So you probably helped a guy or two by sharing your story.
mrseeker, one of our phero-experts, gave you amazing advice! Instant Shine and Instant Openness are the perfect place to start. The self-effects of IS coupled with the easy going feeling given by IO will have you chatting up the ladies in no time.
Trust me, the ladies will WANT to come to you. And when they do, you’ll be ready to have a conversation, or anything else they want to have with you 
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