I’ve been looking on this site for a while and now I’ve joined I thought I’d better drop by an say hi!
I’m 22, male, and from sunny England in the UK… except it’s hardly ever sunny! lol!
After a lot of reading on here I think I know what I would like to achieve but would be grateful for any input you guys could give me.
I think my main problems are with confidence and shyness around people I don’t know well, and that then reflects in how comfortable they feel around me. With people I do know well I’m generally slightly cocky and confident, people seem to like me and I can usually put a smile on their faces. It’s just that “breaking the ice” stage with people I don’t already know well.
So i was thinking of getting Instant Openness/Instant Shine and Alpha A314. What do you think? Also I’m looking for a new job and at interviews I get very nervous and would Alpha A314 help me to come across more confidently?
As for sex and relationships I get on really well with the ladies but nearly always end up in that “just friends” category!
I completely understand that these products aren’t miracle potions and I need to maybe change my approach when chatting to girls but any suggestions of anything that may help?
Anywayz take care everyone and I look forward to hearing your comments!
Welcome, ruff_ryder! Great to have a new member, as you’ve gone from lurker to poster. You can try the A314, but you have to be careful. There’s a concept known as conruence that is sometimes discussed on this forum. Pheromones are 10% chemical, 90% you, so to use them to their full potential, you have to match the vibe the pheromones produce. A314 is a very powerful mix, and creates an air of confidence, importance, and respectability. If you can’t at least partially match this with your own body language and words, other people’s subconcious minds will get confused and simply ignore the messages the pheromones are sending them. However, if you can pull it off, miracles have been known to happen. However, if you buffered it with Instant Shine and Instant Openness, you might be able to get away with a little less congruence until you have enough experience to really play the role.
Instant Shine and Instant Openness by themselves will definitely help break the ice. With just a few signs of interest, people may initiate conversation themselves. If you start the conversation, you should be set.
As for the ladies, you could try something like Ammo, which creates attraction with a hint of sexuality. Nothing too blatant, but good to get the ladies interested in more than just pleasant conversation.
Constantly working on your approach is the best way to improve your results since, as you said, pheromones aren’t miracle potions (although as I said above, occasionally amazing things do happen…) I don’t know much on the topic, but I’m sure many of the other members of the forum could point you in the right direction for books on the subject and just give general tips to help you out. By the way, how did you find this forum?
You have good choices, but as mentioned above the a314 might be a bit tricky. It may tend to encourage people to avoid you. IG has the same base pheromone but is more approachable. It is probably a safer bet for you to start out with.
Both IG and ammo can be helpful in keeping you out of the friend zone. They both contain masculine pheromones, but ammo has a more agressive one.
Hey Vespero thanks for such a quick reply.
The confidence thing is only an issue in certain situations. Overall I’d say I’m pretty confident most of the time. Maybe using something like A314 would help bring out my natural confidence in a situation I’d otherwise feel awkward in? I guess I can always give it a try.
Had thought about ammo as well. If I did use it say on a night out clubbing, would it be completely worn off by the next morning? The reason I ask is I’m a 22yr old male working in an office filled with 35yrs+ women! (no offence to people 35 and over just thought it was relevant considering my circumstances! )
Maybe I’ll try both instant gentleman and A314 on different occasions and compare the results then. I guess different things work better for different people so i’ll give them a both try and let you know how I get on. Is there much of a difference between the Instant Openness or Instant Shine?
You may find better luck with the Instant Gentleman, at least to start. It is a little easier for a beginner to work with and your age is a factor as well. The Instant Gentleman will give off a charisma vibe too, but without the unapproachablilty that the -none from A314 will cause.
There is a difference between Instant Shine and Instant Openness. Shine will give others the impression that you are a confident person and you will feel that way about yourself. Instant Openness with get people to open up to you more, and you’ll be more open as well.
To have the best success, I recommend that you read as much of the forum as possible. At the very least, read the sticky posts in the Men’s section for more tips.
Thanks to all of you for your help so far.
I think i’ll take your advice and go for the Instant Gentleman over the A314. I’d rather take your advice than not take it and regret it! lol!
lol!
It’s just that “breaking the ice” stage with people I don’t already know well.
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