Hi River Dreams!! Welcome to the fourm
I too am a dominant person and wished to attract others like me. You may want to try a mix of Instant sexiness A and Lust for me. This would raise your social value in a sexual context. I know you said you want to soften your appeal but sometimes your personality and your pheromone presence can be very different as I found with myself. When raising your social value, more dominant men will follow. I believe softening your appeal will attract the submissive types. just my 2 cents.
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Daset