The reason I recommended to you straight IJ was because I have had awesome experiences with that type of environment. Same concept different names.
Radman already makes a great point. I know a few girls that work around that field and I can tell you that normal, and even overt flirting means practically nothing. You would be surprised at how good some of these girls are.
The amount of numbers, great tips, and offers that these women get are ridiculous. To make the first impression great, you have to bust chops, and put her on her toes. You essentially have to make it known you know their tactics without blatantly saying you know their tactics.
My friend and I were there the other day, and he didn’t know any of them. I do and it’s cause I have friends that started to work there. She was flirting with him and doing the typical stuff they do. Since he was with me it wasn’t as pronounced as it would have been, but what he said next you can tell she was shocked, this girl is confident and knows what she’s doing. Because we were talking ab out random stuff she forgot our drinks. As she was talking to him, he stops her, “you have really pretty eyes” and as she was about to say thanks, he made a serious face “but where’s my beer” points to the bar, and shoos her away. She gave that look to him, turned and went to grab our drinks. As we were ordering our food, he takes it up another notch. “Now, pay attention, I want…” while doing this, he isn’t being an ass but joking/serious for the full effect. The banter went back and forth with them the entire time we were there. I was observing this and realized the flirting she did with other tables vs with him were completely different. Granted you have to chalk this up that I’ve known her for years and that could be why, but I was just sitting there watching the game and enjoying my food while those two went back and forth.
Lesson for these places?
Be yourself, my friend is a natural ball buster. He wasn’t intimidated, and he didn’t do it in a condescending manner. I guess the way he subtly negged her and the way he interacted definitely peaked her interest. She asked me the other day where my friend was and when we were coming back in next.
Tip wasn’t a difference, keeping regulars wasn’t an interest cause I go there enough with other friends, she specifically asked for him.
Be the man, don’t fall for the trap.