Ok since you asked. As I said before I met her when a few coworkers, friends and I went out for a bite after work. I was wearing my standard A314/TuTh/Shine mix. Now I had made the assumption that hot waitress game (Hooter girls, Tilted Kilt, McFaddens, Pink Taco etc) would be a modified version of stripper game. That is, neg often because like strippers they’re usually validated for their looks all day by every shmoe they see (and face it, if a woman gets told she’s hot by a thousand guys she doesn’t know, why would you saying it mean a damn thing?) Now there’s nine of us total, myself and three other guys, a very shy and insecure about his weight coworker, a 19 year old son of one of the women I work with that I’ve taken a sort of uncle big brother role with, and one of the other girls boyfriends. Plus five girls.
Now wanting to make sure that any attention I got was due to game and mones and not flirting for tips I actually gave 40 bucks to the young dude so he could pay for himself and me…this way any girl we get would assume he’s one of the tippers, not me. I arranged it so I was sitting between the two hottest of my coworkers for an appearance of preselection.
First stop by, open with an implication of IOI but actually an IOD.
Waitress comes by and begins handing out the menu’s and going over the specials, asks if we want to start with an appetizer. I order an appetizer and ask for a sheet of paper and pen. She smirks (most likely assuming that I’m going to ask for her number) she leaves and comes back with our drinks, buffalo platter and a flyer for some event coming up…blank side up in front of me and a pen laid on top then stands still smirking with one hand on her hip. I thank her and then proceed to write out an outline for an amatuer documentary idea I’m planning with the guys. I was trying to accomplish three things in one with this, neg the girl, display a leader of men quality, and show that I have a vision. She stood silent behind me for a moment before asking if we were ready to place the rest of our order. Young dude cuts in, tells me to get what I want and that it’s on him. So we all order and she leaves while I continue talking to everyone about my idea.
Second stop by, She brings our orders and after setting all the plates down comes to stand behind me and puts her hand on my shoulder and asks about my documentary idea. I very briefly tell her it’s about our home town and some of the problems it has and that I plan on using the documentary in conjunction with a website to create a sort of community action group aimed at improving the quality of life in the area…flipping the leadership switch again.
After she leaves to take care of some other tables I continue to talk with my group who are likewise enthralled and leaning in hard…felt like a CEO talking while the board of directors are just eating up every word. I note out of the corner of my eye her talking to two other waitresses and they’re all looking my way. I make like I don’t notice and continue talking.
Third stop by, she comes over again right behind me, places her hand on my shoulder and leans in enough to lightly press her tits against me and asks if we want desert. A few of us order and she lingers for a minute. My other male coworker motions with his head and I make sure to turn slow and relaxed and she’s smiling and looking down at me. Soon as I make eye contact she starts in again about my film idea. I ask her a few questions about how long she’s lived her, what is her neigborhood like, “if you could change or fix one thing about this town what would it be?”, basically screening her and elicint values. She starts talking about the crime rate and homeless issues. I notice she’s been standing talking to me for a while and glance around to see the two girls she was talking to have now taken over her other tables, unintentional ioi, the little vixen got her friends to cover so she could focus more on me.
I figure she’s IOI’d me enough that I can return an IOI, so I compliment her on her insight into issues of the community. Now I’ve paid her an original compliment that’s not based on her looks, and she had to actually work for. She asks what inspired me to come up with the film idea and I told her that it’s kinda personal (IOD) and that I don’t feel I know her well enough to talk about it yet (subtle IOI calibrator). She asks what my girlfriend thinks about my idea (BIG IOI!). I explain that I broke up with my gf a couple months ago because she wanted me to drop the idea so I could spend all my time with her. (Preselection, willingness to walk away, my vision is more important than a woman). Then I semi playfully joke “Can you imagine being all dressed up, and we’re sitting next to George Clooney or somebody like that when they call my name for winning best documentary at the Oscars? and she wasn’t willing to support that!” (Describing my vision is a way that subtly causes her to include herself in it.)
I break rapport and explain it’s getting late and ask for the check. Everyone but me throws in their cash and a few dollars for a tip. As we get up and start to head out the door, I hear “wait a sec!”. I stop and turn and she asks to see the notes I’d been writing. I make a puzzled sort of look and comply the takes her pencil and jots her name and number on the sheet before handing it back to me saying “and you better use it!”
I feel the A14 and Shine really supported the strong charismatic leader quality I was going for, I really didn’t see anything overt from the TuTH, hard to guage since her job has her acting sexual and flirty all day but I think it was good insurance for making sure her interest was attraction based as well as value based.
