A few years ago I met a girl who from the moment I saw her, I knew I wanted to be with her; I thought she was the most beautiful woman I’d ever seen. Still do. And believe it or not, I was able to get her, (always been a silver tongued devil). She’s a blazing red ginger, if that will help any.
Anyway, she was just as into me as I am her, but I hurt her badly, due to a bad problem I had with monogamy and controlling myself at the time. And she, being the most strong willed woman I’ve met, said nope, never again, and didn’t talk to me for about a year. This was in highschool, mind you.
Now we’re in college, and I am still madly in love with her. It’s obvious she still has some sort of feelings for me; we talk a lot now and go over memories from when we dated and things of the sort.
Problem is, she’s in a rebound relationship with a guy after dating someone for a while, and I’m not even sure if she’ll ever let herself date me again.
So here’s the question. She’s coming up next weekend or so to come spend a day with me while she stays with a friend. What pheros should I wear and what should I do/say?
Anything will help; I’m completely nuts over this girl!
Something that makes her feel happy and comfortable while making you look good. Maybe IG with IS or IH. Any “Sexy but bad news” guy needs to avoid nones to look more reliable.
To what extent are you able to control yourself and succeed at monogamy now? If this is good now, show her indirectly by saying things that show your discipline at school, how you avoided pizza and beer to get fit or some other real experience that shows self control. If your sexuality is like a heater you can put from 0 to 5, put it on 2, just warming and comfortably sexy, not urgent and scorching, but not all turned off either.
I agree with Butterfly. I would work more on showing her how you have improved on your weaknesses. Are you SURE you’re ready to commit and not to hurt her again; it sounds unlikely you will get a third chance. You want her, but are you ready for her?
Take your time … relax … use socials around here and get to know each other again. CTTM2 (or IH), IS, Meo-Est might be a good combination to try. Being open and honest with her will beat any phero product … this combination should lean the conversation in that direction while providing comfort and bonding. Instant Gentleman might be good with this combo as well. Good luck.
I was pretty sure this was gonna have to be a “me” effort; was just wondering if there was anything that could help me along the way. Because I’m entirely genuine about it, and I just want her to be able to love me again without having to be afraid or cautious. I know, a bit much coming from a 20 year old, but I’m a romantic at heart, (comes along with being Italian).
Sadly, all I have right now is the new ammo; all my other socials leaked out on accident because I had them in a bag that got tossed around. But I’m willing to grab a couple others before I see her next.
Anyway, thanks again, you guys are always a lot of help!
Nothing helps pain like TIME. Some get hurt and never recover … some learn to understand, that no matter how good you are, IF the other person is messed up, there’s really nothing one can do.
Yeah, right … love you again without having to be afraid or cautious! Who do you think you are!? Buster Brown! Give her the time she deserves, and if she can’t handle the thought of you doing it to her again, you have to be a man and accept it. Some can move on, some can not. It’s a roll of the dice, and you, my friend, are gonna have to just man up, should snake eyes show its head.
At the age of 20, put on ONE or TWO sprays of AMMO to the skin of your chest … go out and think/have FUN! FUN! FUN! No trying to kiss or anything sexual (smack your pecker side the head before leaving the house, 'cause you don’t want it to stand up like an Olympian coming off a ski slope!), or any serious conversation unless she initiates it, I’d say! And don’t you dare start begging!!!
Make sure SHE has fun! If she kisses you, kiss her back, dahmit! I hope you’ve been paying attention to the things she likes, colors, etc. etc. If you haven’t … <slap up side your nugget> START!
LISTEN! LISTEN! LISTEN!
After the date … hall ass home and write down any and everything of value for future dates, 'cause there will be, IF she has FUN! FUN! FUN!
I promise, I don’t mean any harm, I wish him the best, but if people refuse to see the world with a different set of lenses, nothing will ever change.
Forgiving is healing, but it’s hard as a mofo to forgive, if it was painful.
It’s like I always say, don’t know where I got it, but … FORGIVING doesn’t mean you let people back into your life to cause you pain AGAIN, it means that you accept them for who and what they are. Some are idiots, some are lost, and some you just can’t put a word to’em.
Give her the time she deserves, and if she can’t handle the thought of you doing it to her again, you have to be a man and accept it. Some can move on, some can not. It’s a roll of the dice, and you, my friend, are gonna have to just man up, should snake eyes show its head.
I hope you’ve been paying attention to the things she likes, colors, etc. etc. If you haven’t … <slap up side your nugget> START!