So my girlfriend of 3 months broke up with me 2 weeks ago. She said she still wanted to be friends, but that she did not think she wanted a serious relationship. Needless to say, I was devastated because I did love her. I still want to maintain contact with her as friends and maybe down the line she’ll change her mind about a relationship or at least to be friends with benefits.
I’m hoping we’ll see each other once college starts up again in the fall. And maybe we’ll hang out as friends. Anyways, I know this is sort of a longshot but I’m desperate at this point. What pheros would get her into a more cozy mood around me to sort of bring back the memories of when we were together? And also, what pheros would work if I’m just trying to get the physical aspect of our relationship back? She mentioned that she’d feel comfortable doing physical things with a friend she felt comfortable with. So what pheros would aid me in getting her to at least do that much with me? Whether it be sex or just making out. Would Turn Up the Heat be too much? I’m 20 years old btw, so I’m not sure if that influences which pheros to use.
And for future reference, if I have to move on to other girls, what pheros are better for serious relationships?
Yes i think TUTH would be too much for a 20 year old as you are already producing -none (main ingredient) at high enough levels it shouldn’t be nessicary. I suggest Ammo however because it has -none in it, but is buffered by the social products to make it much more manageable. If you want her back try instant Honesty, as it can create much deeper conversations and feelings from them to help win her back. Also Instant Shine will help make her feel great around you, and wonder why she ever left someone who made her feel that great. If you have any more questions, we are here to help.
there are a few on the forum that you could research,
and anything they have to offer is pretty much gold.
i would check out what Bosshank and TheCentaur have been posting.
serious relationship-wise,
they are the best start here.
Catlord as well.
i am sure there are others i will come up with, but this is off the cuff.
i agree IH is one of the better choices.
increases the tightness or bonding in a relationship.
atleast i think so.
no TUTH.
my personal belief is that it is age-dependant.
your ex is sounding like a free-spirit,
which isnt a bad thing but for this reason i would keep my options open.
look around a bit.
At 20 years old many college women are not looking for a “serious” relationship. Instead they’re experimenting and trying to figure out who they are and what they want. Plus some are hardcore into their goals and don’t want a relationship to hold them back from grad school and a fortune 500 job. No mone will change those facts one iota. It might light her fire for a moment, score a roll in the hay and you’ll feel even worse when that was all it was. And chasing after her will only make you look needy and chase her further away.
My suggestion is to give her the space she needs and move on. Finish your degree and get a good job. You’ll then have the stability more women are looking for in a serious relationship. I played the field until my late 20s before getting into something serious–marriage–and figured out later I should have stayed single longer and enjoyed the ride. Every single person I know seems to be divorced so we all drove in a little too quickly.
Mones tend to enhance attraction, status, mood and socialization. They don’t create these things–you do–but they amp what’s already there and give you an edge up. In my experience mones work best in the initial stages of a relationship, e.g., meeting, dating and getting to know someone. So also great for socializing and enhancing work relationships. Once you’re heavy into an intimate relationship they don’t matter nearly so much and effects tend to be on the subtle side (she’s gotten used to them). No mones will “bind” her to you if that’s what you want.
hey my name is erick and i think that TUTH it would be to much for her , and also she provably feel unconfortable around you , what would i recommend ( if you want to show her how much she lost ) then you want to use 2 drops of A314 to show her how of a big shot you are , and to maker feel good around you use a bit of IFM and if you want to spice it a bit more use a spray of p83 .
i think that s ganna work very good for you soo take care bro and go get her back
Agree, totally. If you have any hope to get her back, as ironically as it sounds, it will only be possible if you are able to move on. Be excited about your own life and your own future. Have fun and be a man with an exciting destiny. Many things will happen then: a) you will feel better, b) you will attract other exciting people and c) maybe, and just maybe, she will come back to you; hold no expectations on this last one, though.
Women at that age are exploring, experimenting, they want to experience life; hence, they are more prone to date someone that has an exciting life himself already.
Best advice, move on and squeeze every second of fun out of your summer.
Gegogi knows what his talking about, he’s been around the block several times. Mones are loyal servants but not masters. You are the master of this game, learn to play it and then tell those mones what service you want them to render to you. (Of course you have to learn what each of them is capable of doing, first).
NONE of what a 20-y-o wants to hear, but ALL so very true!
If he’s like most at that age, wanting what he figures he can’t have, he won’t listen … he’ll have to see for himself. With that, he may learn, he may turn into a stalker, he may turn into something ugly, he may be a desperate Willy, OR he may do it again and again and again, 'cause sometimes … that’s just the way people are.
Give her space, is what I would suggest. Moving on, is a better option. It’s hard to do, I know, but it’s so very do-able, IF you haven’t given her your balls! That’s a killa!
Go for IS and IH combo to make you stand out as a shiny person from the rest of the crowd. TUTH will only make you look like your coming on too strong. If it were me though, I would try to move on. Getting back with a girl almost never works (in her mind the battery is probably dead). The best way to get over her is to find a replacement. I know you probably aren’t interested in other girls after your hearts been broken but once you get that new phone number the thrill of dating will come right back to you and you’ll be over your old girl. Good Luck!
Thank you all so much for the responses. I know I should try to go out and meet other girls. And I know chances are, my ex won’t want to get back with me. Its just so hard because I invested so much of myself in her, so when she broke up with me, its like part of me died. But I’m hoping if she doesn’t get back with me, I’ll be able to at least try and meet different girls. What pheros would work best in meeting girls in a non-party situation?
If you invested the best of yourself, that investment will come back to you with huge interest. That’s law in this universe. In order for you to invest the best part of yourself it means that you allowed the best part of you to come forward. A lady, and for the matter a mate, can brake-up with us but never, never, take away the best of us if we don’t allow them. Therefore, my friend, you should be grateful as she just left the field open for a lot of amazing things to come your way. Great things always happen to those that dare to bring-out the best in themselves and others. Just keep that best self shinny and radiant.
Beign consistent with the above, I will endorse Instant Shine. I am sure many others might advice what else you can add to the mix but I would say give yourself a week of two of IS.
I’ve been down that road your on more than once and it sucks…I feel for you. If you want the sexy bad boy vibe than go Instant Jerk. Ammo is good for any situation but the sexy vibe is buffered so it’s not as strong. Instant openess will help get the girls talking to you and feeling at ease. I’d go with jerk because I’ve had some good success with it. But different things work better on different people.
Unless she’s starving for sex then she probably won’t respond well to TUTH. Prob just think your only in it for the sex.
Hmm, just try happy pheromones like IShine, P78, P75, P86 that will make her feel at ease around you. I heard MX138 is good for relaxing someone. IH is also good for making her feel like she can trust you and be comfortable around you.
From what I’ve learned with getting people back you just need to act like your busy and not be desperate at all. AT ALL. Just be happy and keep yourself busy. She’ll either come around or not. No worrying will make her come around faster or come around at all, but not acting desperate can increase your chances of getting her back.
I’d also suggest you use any phero around her that’ll make her think you have swagger and are a manly man. Women like men who are their own men, not cry babies.
Good luck
Don’t try to get her back, move on with your life. Delete her number from your phone, delete and destroy any pictures you have of her. Trying to get her back will just show neediness and desperation. The more you chase her, the faster she runs. There are millions of other girls out there dude and you can meet woman anywhere, it could be a grocery store, coffee shop, barnes and nobles, gas stations, in a dark alley, etc.
That’s kinda harsh dude. I love it when a guy I’ve been dating tries to get back with me. It makes me feel wanted, even when there are 5 other guys trying to woo me at the same time . I don’t think there’s ever been a time that I’ve dumped a guy and he asked me back that I didn’t at least give him another chance or try to make it work.
If you really care about someone you should go after them. Not saying he should be desperate and he definitely shouldn’t call her all the time. But don’t delete the memories. That just proves that a guy can’t let go and really care deeply for someone.
Don’t lose hope, and never lose that big heart of yours
I think the Happy Fox is right. I know I’ve certainly broken up with GFs many times, only to get back together, sometimes many times! Even did it with my ex-wife. Life is not black and white, but a bunch of friggen gray areas! However the big problem is knowing where to draw the line. Sometimes the break is final and you need to be sober minded enough to recognize it’s time to take your lumps and go.
, and to maker feel good around you use a bit of IFM and if you want to spice it a bit more 
. I don’t think there’s ever been a time that I’ve dumped a guy and he asked me back that I didn’t at least give him another chance or try to make it work.