I'm giving up on Asian girls especially my own country ones:(

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Dear all my Phero buddies, friends & others in Pherotalk, I have decided to give up on asian girls especially my own country ones as shown above.

The reasons is first> i have enough of their nonsenses, second>their play hard to get aka (Bitch shields), third>they tend to make a fool out of you easier to say play you out, four>they are not friendly mostly conservative so don’t bother, five>they mostly go for wealth & looks, six>they will look to who they make friends with to increase their social status. Even the non-asian girls are not as bad as this.

Ok honestly i have encountered all this & being played out for the eighth time. So now i have decided i have enough. I will use my Pheros for other activties like social no more focus on the sexual & also will focus on completing my studies here in Singapore to go further studies overseas & hopefully get a nice girlfriend & hopefully a good job which means i won’t be coming back to my own country. I’m aiming Australia btw. I know some of you think that i should not give up but i can’t take it anymore. I have once thought to cut myself & i also try to committed suicide because of this & other matters before. Ok maybe some of you will think that’s stupid of me to do that but at that time i was very depressed to my limits. I’m also taking Anti depressants medication at that time. If anyone of my buddies or friends think i don’t deserved to be their friend or buddy here after reading this thread, so be it. I have to say what i have to say here. No secret here.

So i have said much more about me there so that you guys & ladies that have known me here could understand more about me there. I don’t mind getting negative reps because i start this thread. I’m ready for this when i thought of doing this thread.

Thanks for your time & feel free to leave your opinions.

P.S. Latest news> Someone has just negative rep me for my purple font saying it sucks. Thanks man maybe your font is more suckier than mine.

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rep you neg? no way, i think your very brave to come with a statement like this. Really takes guts mate.

I feel sorry for you that u have been turned down by those girls, and i understand your frustration. And i think i would be aiming for other girls aswell if i were in your situation. Dont know what else to say other than GL :smiley:

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Thanks Homann for reading my thread & for your opinion there :slight_smile: I got to come up with a statement like this to let you guys & ladies know more about me. I won’t hide anything here.

Well things turn haywired for me there. Yup i was thinking like that for some time aiming other girls. Anyway thanks for wishing me GL :slight_smile:

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Haha PhatSo (<- just made that up :stuck_out_tongue:), I feel the same way. The problem now is that they won’t leave me alone :frowning:. They’re not even that cute/hot and all they do is complain or call attention to themselves (the ones around my town).

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Hi phat,
I have heard a lot about Singaporean girls but not all are like that.

My advice is don’t let that be the main reason you leave your country. You have family members and friends who care for you and need you.

Goodluck in your studies and career in Australia if that is your decision.

CHeers

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Hey PhatSounds, I’m sure almost all of us here can relate. There are those types of women everywhere and throughout history. Same with mindless jerkoffs. Don’t let that discourage you from finding an lovely Asian woman to spend your time with. Try other locations, maybe concerts rather than clubs would be better? I’m sure a jazz show would have completely different participants than the latest club. Libraries? People aren’t always studying in them you know. :smiley:

I don’t know if there are many of these ‘clubs’ in Singapore, but there are ‘clubs’ for people who like cars, or cuisine, poetry, etc…you can always attempt to meet like minded individuals there. These are not dancing clubs but rather..discussion clubs?

I won’t address the depression and thoughts of self-mutilation/suicide, because me telling me this or that won’t help you (if you reject support like I did.), also I’m not fully aware of your full thought process behind your depression, so I’m reluctant to even begin. My own psyche is enough of a handful. :stuck_out_tongue:

This made me laugh! :slight_smile: It is certain their font is suckier than yours. :smiley: Your font is very unique and has character. Very easy to recognize on the forums whose post I am reading.

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How many points did you lose? Multiply that by 2 and it should be easier to locate the culprit. I like your font btw, it seems cheery, but, first impression, I thought you were gay, LOL.

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By looking at how frustrated he is now, I hope that he wouldn’t turn into one.:stuck_out_tongue: (just kidding :smiley: )

Anyway, Buddy, girls shouldn’t be the main issue at your age.:slight_smile: There’re other more important things that you should concentrate like your studies to secure a better future in life.:wink:

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PhatSounds:

I can see your frustration. I have been with several Asian girls and can say that yes indeed they are a challenge. But not all of them are completley as you described. Some of them can be quite loving. Still I agree with you, to focus on other things, and not try so hard. It is not easy to be in a relationship where bumping heads occur on a regular basis, so go ahead and givenother girls a chance as this may work out for you.

Take care

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Hmm, funny phatso :smiley: anyway i can understand you there buddy :slight_smile:

My thanks buddy for your advice but i think my country girls are not meant for me maybe other countries girls there is a high chance for me there :slight_smile: And also thanks for wishing me luck on my studies & hopefully a career in Australia :slight_smile:

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Thanks Phya for that advice you have given. Really appreciate that :slight_smile: Hmm, well i could try out what you have said there but not with my country girls as i say before i giving on them already. It’s ok that you won’t address the depression & thoughts that i’m facing I understand this.

Hmm, well i’m also certain the person who neg me has a font that is suckier than mine or much worser even to read.Thanks fo the compliments on my font :smiley:

Well i 'm not sure it just happen so fast buddy maybe a few points i guess but i’m bothered by it just curious. Thanks for your compliment on my font :slight_smile: & well you shocked me :open_mouth: there when you say there that you thought i’m a gay, i was like froze & shocked for a few seconds after reading that but i know you are joking there :smiley:

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As much as we like to think that everyone is unique and there shouldnt be a generalization.. there /is/ social upbringing that comes into play. Political correctness is one thing, but hard reality is very raw and merciless.

Maybe in more multi-cultural countries like the US, where people from different races/culture live together, this effect is diluted down. But rest of the world is quite different. There is always a social pressure to act in ‘a certain’ way. Thats way a lot of girls in your country and mine seem introverted and develop a very strong last minute resistance.
Well… not so much in my country anymore due to so much of ‘americanization’ in last few decades, but you get the point.

I dont think I can advice you or comfort you with anything much, really… Just want to say, whatever you do.. enjoy it and dont regret later. Wish you a wholesome life.

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i always imagined singaporean girls are quite uptight, so it could be tough (hey life is tough :smiley:), but the problem is…sometimes the harder you try the more frustrated you will get, so my advice is to go with the flow, you can always focus on your study and career. and later on things will get better trust me, when you have a positive attitude everything will eventually go your way.

but if you do decide to come to Australia i can show you around and maybe introduce you to some new girls :smiley:

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I know you are kidding buddy but really you can be sure i’m not one of that type. Well i understand your point buddy but when i see couples & i’m alone sometimes i feel jealous of them :frowning: Yes i will focus on my studies for a better future like you said there :slight_smile:

Thanks on your opinion Romulus :slight_smile: but i have disagreed with you there on some of them is quite loving. To me that is a big no for them here :frowning: Also thanks for your advice there & yes i will give other girls from other countries a chance there :smiley:

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Well i agreed with you said there v0m1t especially this one( I will give you Reps for this :slight_smile: )> Maybe in more multi-cultural countries like the US, where people from different races/culture live together, this effect is diluted down. But rest of the world is quite different. There is always a social pressure to act in ‘a certain’ way. Thats way a lot of girls in your country and mine seem introverted and develop a very strong last minute resistance.
Well… not so much in my country anymore due to so much of ‘americanization’ in last few decades, but you get the point.

And yes i know what you said there>Whatever you do.. enjoy it & don’t regret it later. Well i don’t regret my decision, the girls here are more terrible than i thought & not worth my effort. Thanks for wishing me there :slight_smile:

Thanks for your good advice buddy well i will give it some thought there. Yes focus on study & career i agreed on that :slight_smile:

Ok buddy when i finished my studies here, i will let you know when i arrived in Australia for my overseas studies :slight_smile: Yay! i got someone to show me around & get to know some australian babes :smiley: Thanks man :slight_smile:

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Phat, I’m a little late to this, but I just want to say…take it easy on yourself, my friend! Don’t worry so much about romance and stop investing yourself so heavily right off the bat…just keep making friends. Look how many you have right here! :slight_smile: Concentrate on yourself and leading a happy life by being the best you can be. All things will come in time. I know it’s hard to be patient…but slow down and take a breath.

These girls, you speak of, are very young…they may catch on as they mature…if not you’ve lost nothing. To quote my dad-in-law…“Women are like buses…another one will be along in twenty minutes.” There are plenty of girls out there, Phat, nice girls…and one just for you…I know it. Remember what I said about keeping the door ajar? :wink: I wish you success in all you do. :slight_smile:

AND I LOVE YOUR FONT, DAMNBIT!
I seriously wish this childish neg crap would stop. :roll_eyes: Grow the F**K UP for God’s sake and for the rest of us…guess I’m next…lol

Bella

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Hello Bella, thanks for your advice there & yes you are right i’m fortunate to have so many friends here :slight_smile: Thanks all of you there from wherever you are :slight_smile: I really like your father-in-law quote. Good one there :smiley: Yes i remember Bella about keeping the door ajar. Yes i’m still keeping the door ajar for other girls in other countries but closed for my country girls. Thanks for wishing me success :slight_smile:

And yes i agreed with you i do wish the neg rep would stop but we can’t control everyone opinion or thinking so it turned out like this.

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PhatSounds, you may not like hearing this, but I think you are to quick to give up, and need to spend more time figuring out how to interact and catch the interest of asian women.

Many, many years ago I also suffered depression and I too tried to commit suicide. I ended up with 2 broken ankles, a broken knee, and numerous cuts and lacerations (If you look closely at my avatar, you can probably see the scar on my chin). Being in the military and single, they would not let me leave the hospital until I could walk again. I spent 3 months in casts and a leg brace, and had to go through tons of physical therapy. I also had plenty of time to look inward at myself, what I had tried to do, why I was so unhappy and what changes I could make within.

When I finally got to leave the hospital I was a changed man! I realized that happiness starts from within and radiates outward, I was more determined and confident and I stopped letting other people influence my feelings, or how I felt about myself. The way other people treat you is more a reflection about themselves and their outlook on life, than it is about you. If you an start to realize that just that one statement is true, and just not care about what other people think of you, I believe that can make a world of difference for you!

You stated several reasons for deciding to give up. But, let’s be honest, if they were true and all asian women were like that, and if other men felt the same way, then Singapore would have a dying population, which it does not!

It’s hard to look at ourselves and realize that we are unsuccessful at anything due to our own shortcomings. However, if we keep blaming our failures on outside factors and are not willing to look inward and realize that our problems may be our own, and then be willing to make changes from within to resolve those issues, NOTHING EVER CHANGES!

If all the women in the nightclubs you go to were bitches, then the guys would have stopped going to those clubs. Soon after, the girls would have also stopped going, and the clubs would quickly close. This obviously is not the case. So, rather than giving up, I would strongly suggest that instead of saying all women have their bitch shields on high and deciding to give up, what you should be doing is watching how other guys act around and with women, and mirror what the successful guys are doing.

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well said mark. rep

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I understand Mark for what you have said there & appreciate your advice very much there :slight_smile: You have gone through a lot of difficulties there. I have respect & awe on that :slight_smile:

Yes you may be right that i’m quick to give up and need to spend more time figuring out how to interact and catch the interest of asian women but seriously i have enough & have to give up on my country asian girls. The asian girls here are so terrible :frowning:

I understand that you said don’t let other people influence you & believe on yourself. Well i will keep note of that.

About this statement that you said> You stated several reasons for deciding to give up. But, let’s be honest, if they were true and all asian women were like that, and if other men felt the same way, then Singapore would have a dying population, which it does not!

Let me say on my opinion, that My country Singapore is becoming a dying population now as it’s low on babies & it need manpower. That bad that the goverment is even promoting baby bonus. Girls here are like that & are very reluctant to have sex & the men here some are still single at 35 to 40, i don’t wish to be like that :frowning:

About another statement that you make> If all the women in the nightclubs you go to were bitches, then the guys would have stopped going to those clubs. Soon after, the girls would have also stopped going, and the clubs would quickly close. This obviously is not the case. So, rather than giving up, I would strongly suggest that instead of saying all women have their bitch shields on high and deciding to give up, what you should be doing is watching how other guys act around and with women, and mirror what the successful guys are doing.

Well for my opinion Mark, yes i agreed on that & even try what you said there (you should be doing is watching how other guys act around and with women, and mirror what the successful guys are doing) before but no luck. I have to go with my decision & give up on the girls in my country but my door is still ajar for other girls in other countries. Thanks for your concern Mark :slight_smile: