Incredibly attractive female can't get attention!

[lido_puma]

@xev

Okay, this may come off as harsh but I don’t intend it too. I used to be painfully shy, and eventually grew out of 80% of it (after wasting the prime of my youth) – so this is where my perspective comes from.

Shy people are very self-absorbed. They are so wrapped up in worrying about themselves and what other people think about THEM, they notice/care very little about other people and other people’s needs, concerns, and wants. The self-absorption may be rather negative (in that being shy is generally unpleasant), but it is self-absorption nonetheless.

This is why shy people often come off as arrogant or stuck up. Other people notice the lack of empathy. And the shy person protests, “no, I’m not stuck up, I’m just shy”. Well, to other people, it doesn’t really matter if you are spending all your time thinking how much better you are than everyone else, or spending all your time worrying about how inferior you are. Either way, you are inwardly focused.

The cure IMHO is to try to focus more on other people (other than what they might be thinking about you).

I can agree with you there. I can also add the theory that beauty makes people lazy when it comes to pursuit. Like, for an average-looking female, it would be detrimental to have to learn to be witty and interesting. However, a very beautiful woman wouldn’t “need” to in order to attract attention. Another evolutionary theory?

[lido_puma]

@Sailor4UK

Incredibly attractive female huh? I want to see some PROOF on those claims!

Perhaps I exaggerate. :o

[MaChMa]

@lido_puma

Perhaps I exaggerate. :o

I think the real question is Why do we live in central Texas? haha I cant wait to get out of here.

[Sailor4UK]

Lol im surprised you get “Internet” in central texa let alone pheromones!! lol

[lido_puma]

@Sailor4UK

Lol im surprised you get “Internet” in central texa let alone pheromones!! lol

lol I threatened a revolt. I came from the Silicon Valley, so it was necessary. lol

[busybee]

Hey Lido,
Welcome to the forum! I graduated SJSU Engineering a few years ago. I’m in Livermore now. Still a rat race. Anyway, I’ve been fooling around with pheros for a few months now. I gotta say, they do work. I recommend spending a lot of time on this forum learning as much as you can. I won’t say that they are the most user-friendly products available. The more you know the more they can empower you.

Have fun!

-B

PS - Yowza!

[xev]

@lido_puma

I can agree with you there. I can also add the theory that beauty makes people lazy when it comes to pursuit. Like, for an average-looking female, it would be detrimental to have to learn to be witty and interesting.

I’m not sure I follow you. Do you mean it would be necessary for the average-looking female to have to learn to be witty? Why would it be detrimental?

However, a very beautiful woman wouldn’t “need” to in order to attract attention. Another evolutionary theory?

Well, actually I think the cause and consequence are the reverse of your hypothesis. I think that for males or females, being shy, lacking self-confidence, and NOT being witty or interesting is exactly what makes someone appear “average-looking”, and that beauty lies in action and attitude, which spill over into physical appearance in myriad ways.

[jankren]

@lido_puma

I can agree with you there. I can also add the theory that beauty makes people lazy when it comes to pursuit. Like, for an average-looking female, it would be detrimental to have to learn to be witty and interesting. However, a very beautiful woman wouldn’t “need” to in order to attract attention. Another evolutionary theory?

Lol, do you even know what the word ‘detrimental’ means?!? Coz it seems you dont.

Anyway, probably every single human being is more drawn toward personality above looks. Besides, as they say, “Looks attract men but it is personality that keeps them.”

[lido_puma]

@jankren

Lol, do you even know what the word ‘detrimental’ means?!? Coz it seems you dont.

Anyway, probably every single human being is more drawn toward personality above looks. Besides, as they say, “Looks attract men but it is personality that keeps them.”

Forgive my stupidity. English as a Third language wasn’t offered in my kindergarten.