Hey again everyone! I’ve been seriously thinking about how my brain works especially when hormones and pheromones are involved.
Well my issues are my attractions to the male sex. I can’t seem to understand why I like the guys that I like. In the beginning everything is great except about the part that I’m very shy and never really talk to them. I get flustered and nervous around them and at lost for words. I’m 19 and still acting like a 12 year old school girl.
It’s sad really… but whenever I find anything out about them I always come to the tradigic conclusion that they are all taken. I never find out until it’s too late and I’ve already let my heart and feelings get involved. Every guy I’ve ever liked has a girlfriend but I don’t know it til way later on.
The last guy I really liked turned out to be 19 married with a kid and another one ony the way! I was so shocked! What kind of pheromones could unavailable men be giving off that’s attracting me to them?
Anyway, I’m using Instant Openess and Instant Sexiness A. Openess is nice, it gets me open and talking and I’ve made friends with this. It makes me feel friendly.
Instant sexiness which I wear with it makes me feel kinda sexy. Guys definately notice me but I’ve yet to have any approach me. Maybe I need to dress more sexy?
I realized that people are less rude about my gender issues when wearing it. I don’t get those god-awful stares and laughs. Which is good. I love the smell of neroli(I believe that’s what’s in the to-go pheromones). But I think guys are more inclined to be interested in me without the ISexi? I could be wrong, maybe the gay ones like me without it while straight ones like ISexi.
Anyway there’s a guy that I like now. I wish I’d woman up and talk to him but it’s kinda hard or at least I make things hard for myself. I easily outed myself to my teacher today with no problem so I don’t understand why I can’t talk to this guy. Is ISexi-A supposed to give me more confidence? If so I will do more sprays.
I always use Instant Openness on my neck pulses and ISexi on my lower neck where the collar bone is. I do one spray per neck side (right beneath the ear) of IO and one spray on collar bone of ISexi. So maybe I need to up ISexi? I really want to see if this Unavailable male curse has been lifted. Cause my new admiree is so cute and german and I like forgein guys alot. But he has a metro vibe which I hope isn’t a gay vibe I haven’t really fallen for a gay guy before and that would kinda suck cause I’m a trannsexual and I don’t know how’d that ever work… Anyway, thanks for reading my very long post!
It’s not just you. I’m afraid this situation happens to everyone all too often. And it seems to happen the most when you’re vulnerable or love hungry. I frequently get hit on by married women and they often don’t reveal the truth until they have my heart nailed. Why married women like me I haven’t a clue. One hid her marriage from me for 3 months until her husband returned from Iraq. Amazingly she still wanted to keep seeing me, although I tried decided to call it quits.
I’ll say one thing about pheromones–they normally give you a little buzz at first. Depending on the pheromone, this varies from a “feel good” aura (IS) to devilish horn-dog (androstenone). However you quickly get used to the effects and develop a tolerance. I rarely notice I’m wearing them. So basically using them for confidence is a losing battle. Confidence must come from within and flows from your accomplishments, hard work and positive attitude. Wear pheromones to influence and enhance your interactions with others.
Happens to everyone. I often hear my single girlfriends saying the “good ones are always taken”. There not of course, it just takes time to find the right one. Its going to be a little harder for you to find the right one because you face more obstacles then the adverage girl. But you will find him.
Married men give off the same pheromones and single men but maybe they are just a little more experienced and confident then the single ones so they are more approuchable.
I dont totally agree about the self effects. I have been using pheromones for a year now and I still get them. I dont get the phero buzz but I do talk more when I wear Instant Openness and I do feel more confident when wearing IS/A. I do however think you have to have a little of those traits to begin with for the pheromones to enhance them. I am normally talkative and confident so the pheromones just enhance that a little but they dont change me in any way. I do however agree with Gegogi and you do have to work on confidence from within. Dont expect the mones to do this for you. Be happy and proud of who you are and try to radiate that to the world around you. When you do, people notice and they will attract to you. I know its not easy to just stop being shy or nervous but alot of people face that problem, work on that along with the pheromones and you will find him. I think you need to find a guy who is comfortable with who you are, whether if he is gay or straight. One who has a interest in the inside as well as the outside. The rest will work itself out.
I would try one more spray of Instant sexiness. I use 3 myself. 1 to chest, 1 split to wrists and 1 to hair.
i think its a personality flaw to want what we “think” we cant have.
im not looking for debate because i prolly wont respond to it,
but when we are attracted to someone that we do not feel equal enough to them to approach them easily, it means we are looking for validation from someone we feel (not think) is better than we are.
like if a celeb suddenly gave you attention, you would feel an ego boost.
your attracted to people who can boost you in your mind, not necessarily in reality.
my opinion is it has nothing at all to do with pheromones, its psychological.
lol common issue. It’s messed up to find out after the fact, but perhaps you could do the legwork first, as part of the process of finding out if you are into them or not? I’ve tended to do that as age and wisdom catch up. i might be initially attracted to a guy, and then there’s the eval period where i try to figure out whether he’s available, whether I actually like him as a person, where his head is at, etc, etc. The downside is, my reject pile is pretty damn big. But the friends first approach helps to clear up all the issues. In my head, every man I meet i treat as a new friend. i don’t put expectations on the interaction - we’ll just be buddies until such time as things get heavy. Some stay just friends, some become long-term flirtations, some actually make it to homebase. But acting in this way, at least for me, has definitely increased the quality of my various relationships. And nothing is too “heavy” that doesn’t need to be.
as far as womanning up to tell the truth, I’ve found with me, a couple of sprays of beta-androstenol where i can feel it when it’s time for me to have courage does wonders for helping me speak my truth.
Probably tolerance varies with individuals, dose and frequency of use. I have an obsessive-perfectionist personality and tend to drive in whole hog to the bitter end, so I’ve used pheromones almost daily for over 4 years. The self-effects gradually faded after the first few months and were pretty much gone after a year or so, unless I applied a mega dose (& I do once in a while for an OD thrill). Probably if I stopped for a month or two I’d sensitive again. Of course I’d be subject to the same poison as my targets! I like being in control rather than being controlled, although pheromones are more like a “push” or suggestion.
I can say to the OP that pheromones are only one component of the whole package. So while they really do help enhance your assets, success is only possible if you have assets to enhance. Being shy usually gets you nowhere fast. So keep your personality, body language, social skills, conversation and appearance up to specs and pheromones will help present you at your best.
I am sure at some point I will build a tolerance as well. Right now I only use mones maybe 4 to 5 days a week and I tend to switch around what I wear so thats probably why its taking me longer.
Oh I totally agree with that as I said above. I think as Lor once pointed out alot of people get disappointed with mones because they expect to much or for them to somehow change them but they just dont work that way.
I read something about married men producing less testosterone, which in effect makes them produce less -none right? So maybe women can detect the difference in the -none levels and have something click in their minds somewhere along the lines of “He was desirable…must investigate!”.
Honestly it has more to do with comfort than anything else. People crave different things so there is no way to even generalize what people want in a partner. Other than maybe a pulse, oh, and I like girls with hair and eyes. Other than that, the married woman whose husband is away could be looking for a little action or a replacement to her security. These are obviously just my observations…
BTW- Stay away from women whose hubbys are in Iraq. Its a pain in the ass when we come home and have to find a new place to hide a body! Just playin. BUT… here is a fun joke
A Marine stationed in Afghanistan recently received a “Dear John”
Letter from his girlfriend back home. It read as follows:
Dear Ricky, I can no longer continue our relationship. The distance
between us is just too great. I must admit that I have cheated on
you twice since you’ve been gone, and it’s not fair to either of us.
I’m sorry. Please return the picture of me that I sent to you.
Love,
Becky
The Marine, with hurt feelings, asked his fellow Marines for any
snapshots they could spare of their girlfriends, sisters,
ex-girlfriends, aunts, cousins etc. In addition to the picture of
Becky,
Ricky included all the other pictures of the pretty gals he had
collected from his buddies.
There were 57 photos in that envelope along with this note:
Dear Becky, I’m so sorry, but I can’t quite remember who the
F**K you are. Please take your picture from the pile, and send the rest
back to me.
and I have also been drawn over and over to men who are taken, either with wives or serious girlfriends. There is a certain sense of safety with this situation, as frustrating as it is. If they are taken you can’t get too close, and if you can’t get too close, you can’t get hurt.
Human Unicorn i know you ladies are far less likely to approach a guy.
Have you ever used a go between,a male friend that can suss out the situation with your target finding out if they are in a relationship or whether they are attracted to you.It can work well if your friend is discrete and not to obvious about it.
Careful what you ask for Tater. I just may send you one. I am a little wild once in a while. I Guarantee you will never be able to eat maple syrup again without your pants getting tight.
Hey thanks again for the support and comments! Well I will try a go between. I usually have one anyway, I need to try it out withthe german guy cause i GOT IT BAD! I really like him but I’m using IS-A and IO and I have been openinig up to him ok. I just push past my anxiety and fear and nerves. I really like this guy but now I have another situation. But a go between is always best… But I don’t get the taken guy complex I’m on. I don’t know it until It’s too late and that’s the worst.
Yes you are girl, Love the new picture.