I have to agree with Tisha. I normally encourage women to buy both because I feel that we all want to play either sides every once in a while.
However, it does not work that way with everyone and it’s best if some persons stick to the one that suits their personality type.
From reading into what you are saying about yourself I feel you tend to be both and switch it on and off when you feel it’s appropriate so I would get both.
Or get Instant sexiness/A 30ml because that’s your predominant nature and a 5ml of Instant sexiness/b.