Welcome Mardelene,
Since you are married I would say its a great thing that the guys see you as one of the equals and don’t really concentrate as the girl part
The way it works is that it is hard for men and women to be friends and if they start seeing you as otherwise they might start flirting with you , coming on to you or imaging stuff they never should.
However, if you still want them to see you as a woman then use the suggestion offered by gone and the women will have more ideas as to what combinations can do the trick
Your gc was issued!